Why is it so easy for people to tell others off?

[BigdaNawab]

Re: Why is it so easy for people to tell others off?

@worldxi

So I have always been tempted to try alcohol and plan to do so when going out for a friend’s birthday tomorrow night. A mutual friend is always telling me off about how its too much, it goes against our religion etc etc. I am not particularly religious (eat non-halal, don’t pray) and it bothers me when somebody starts lecturing me about it or passes judgmental comments especially when that person herself isn’t big on religion, is involved in a sexual relationship and does drugs. I have never judged her commented saying its wrong or how that makes her a terrible person because it is her life, her business. Would love some advice on how to deal with her in a polite manner as I hate confrontations. Cheers!

First of all, one should be humbled by good advice. It shouldn’t matter who is giving the advice, if we are able to appreciate good advice or reminders getting to us.

Second, I may have knowledge of something good and beneficial, but I might not have the strength, or commitment to benefit myself from it. Example, I might know what stocks are doing good and which ones to buy or sell, but I might not even be engaged in trading myself. But anyone who is, could benefit from my advice.

Thirdly, it is actually YOU who are judging the person as inept and incapable and unworthy of benefitting you with good knowledge or advice. You are too arrogant to take criticism or advice for your own benefit.

Finally, it is better to reject something in knowledge and understanding, than out of ignorance. So sometimes we need to try things out ourselves before REJECTING it.