Hello everyone,
I hope you all are doing well. I am not sure how active everyone is on here but wanted to see if anyone went through a similar situation and how they dealt with it.
Background: I have been in a long distance relationship for almost two years now. We would meet every two months or so and everything was going well until October when he started behaving different towards me. He started acting distant and ignoring me. I confronted him many times and all he said was he’s going through some stuff and needs space for which I started to give him some space but we did talk here and there which for most part he was rude/disrespectful. After a month of no explanation as to whats going on, I figured he is no longer interested and wants me to leave but cannot say it himself. I called him, he didn’t pick up, so I left a voice message ending it between us. I didn’t hear back from him for two days but it was bothering me and I had the urge to text/call him again but to stop myself I blocked him from everywhere that way I dont message him either. Now when I did that he started calling me from no caller id, I knew it was him so I didn’t pick up but it got to a point where he called 30-40 times a day so I decided to pick up and he asked me to give him some time to figure stuff out and to unblock him. With our history, I decided to give him another chance. I asked him to come see me or I can go see him to talk in person and sort this out. He came to visit, told me he has some family issues but he does not want to lose me and he will sort it out soon. I told him I can give him some space but he said he wanted me to be with him. Even after that he has been mistreating me and I decided to leave but he went crazy calling nonstop and didn’t let me but then it got to a point where he was like if I am mistreating you why dont you leave me, you should have left by now but you haven’t and I am wondering why to which I said because you don’t let me. He goes now I am letting you go you should leave. I didn’t reply back to that which was my answer and I stopped replying back all together. Now he is going crazy again will his calls.
I don’t know what to do. It’s very evident with his behavior that he no longer wants me in his life because that is not how you treat people you love /want despite of what you are going through and two months is a good enough time to resolve your issues. I know I owe myself an apology for allowing him treat me like this but I don’t want to be with him anymore and he is not letting me go. Why do people do this?