Why is it considered unIslamic if you don't want to get married (again)?

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Perhaps in that case, all the questions here should be asked to an Alim or Mufti instead of in this forum? :)

Besides, Alims or Muftis or whatevers have different views all with some sort of evidence. (just look at the answers on the many websites, all with different views). I like to get information from all sides, negative, positive, neutral and then see which sounds more true, more logical and I do sometimes get an answer I don't like, but then I have to accept that and live with that. I'd love to do many things which I'm not allowed to do in Islam. That's the way it is for everybody. :)

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By the way, everyone, I'm giving it a second try now. I've changed my mind about marriage some time ago. This time, I will only get married if I find someone myself, someone who is my own choice and not my families choice, because I don't want another terrible husband. Besides, right now, I'm happy the way I am. I'm not letting any husband ruin my life again! Life is alhamdulilah for me. If I find someone suitable for me, then I'll accept him and if I don't find anyone, I'm not going to remarry. That's the way it is. Thanks everyone for the information and opinions.

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Re: Why is it considered unIslamic if you don't want to get married (again)?

All I can say is that marry when you want to, who you want to and for the right reasons. Rest is all BS.

This is the simplest logic of life and nobody can prove this wrong religiously or otherwise.

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I am with u notorious. Before getting married also i was of the opinion that one can live without marriage and I was very happy with my single life.

You have experienced marriage and it was not a good one , you were the one who faced all the pains , its easier for everyone to make decision , only the person who is actually suffering can understand.

Its your life and you shd make decision abt it esp abt marriage . You r right that u will get married to a person that u will choose , you have every right to be satisfied before u enter into another relationship.

As long as one is not committing any sin its fine to be unmarried!

I wish u a happy life !

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Thank you. :)

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Re: Why is it considered unIslamic if you don't want to get married (again)?

Getting married is sunnah and not farz.
So if you get married its better, specially if you have the desire and feel the need.

Choosing the one you want to get married is totally upto you.

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Thanks.

For me this topic is less important now, since I've decided to give it a second chance if I find someone myself this time.

Thanks everyone for the info.

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Re: Why is it considered unIslamic if you don't want to get married (again)?

Dear Dear Dear,
after reading all points of all epople you will get confused someone is bringing jesus and many other examples.
replying openly about your personal life like this openly is also not right as it needs to dorted seriously.
pl send your reply on my mail id this is [email protected]. i can try to see if any one who is also divorcee or widowed person needing to settle down in life looking for someone like you.
When allah has given permission for remarriage then the parents friends or any body for that matter have no say.

[FONT=Calisto MT]It is not befitting for a believer, man or woman, when a matter has been decided by Allah and His Apostle, to have any option about their decision: if anyone disobeys Allah and His Apostle, he is indeed on a clearly wrong path. (Surah Al-Ahzab, 33:36)

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pl dont give one persons*[rabia basri]example if she had disobeyed by not marrying and become dasi and you people make a wrong decision supposed to be good.
Did any of prophets family* didnt marry**.[dont give examples of mistaken people]
you all want to make your own islam rabia or any body are wrong if it against the orders of allah and teachings of rasool[sas]keep in mind and quote only from quran or hadees.

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Re: Why is it considered unIslamic if you don't want to get married (again)?

at the end of the day, i've learned that people are never going to be happy with what you have decided to do with your life. if you don't decide to re-marry, there'll be questions as to why you don't. and if you do, they're will be questions..'how did you remarry so quickly' or that you didn't try hard enough with the first marriage. you're damned if you do, and damned if you don't.

you're old enough to decide what's best for you and for your children. no one should decide what you should do with your life, especially after everything that you've already gone through. may you find happiness with whatever path you choose to take.

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Again, thanks for the info.

This topic can be closed as far as I'm concerned, since I've decided to give it a second try if someone suitable for me comes along. :)

If not, it doesn't matter, then Allah will give me someone in Djannat insha Allah who will treat me as a husband should treat his wife.

So, moderators, you can close this topic and if people want to keep discussing this subject, they can start a new thread with a neutral question like: is marriage farz in Islam if you've already been married once?