Re: Why is his mother against the her?
I see nothing wrong with giving precedence over religion. Islam is always guiding people to the right act. The problem is the people, ill informed and illogical…One of the reasons I married this guy instead of any other is that this guy seemed what I thought was someone who had his priorities right and he would always choose right over wrong. He had pledged his allgence to his parents and I saw that as a great sign. A son who would not abandon his parents for his own selfish wants.
I admit, I was hasty in my decision to marry my husband and after that even when I saw the red flags, I continued because he had become a habit. He was a mentor to me for my work. No, we didn’t work for the same employer but he had become my mentor and I thought that I couldn’t continue to succeed without my biggest advisor.
Actually, my family saw my destruction and they did some tough love. Yes, they said that I’d have to choose him or them. Well, I first choose them, cut off all ties with him, cancled the wedding, and barricaded myself.
long story short, I should’ve listened to my parents.
**A girl deserves to be embraced into her husband’s family with open arms. If the guy’s Mother does not like the girl, there will most likely be a mountain of problems. **
We had no intention to cut any ties with anyone or cut off $ to anyone. A lot of things discussed pre-marriage change. I think my husband thought that his mother would see me for who I am and start to like me or that I would soften my stance on anti-MIL. And I have.
But your cousin seriously needs to think if she can manage if things don’t change and that her husband insists that she acts like a obediant bahu, which means catering to a woman who makes it clear that she hates her.