Re: Why is his mother against the her?
COMPLETELY agree with all of your posts above.
My aunt’s son got involved with a girl his parents didn’t approve of/agree to in the beginning. They even took him to Pakistan to show him girls after he broke the news of his girlfriend and his intentions to marry her. However, it didn’t work. They had shouting matches at home, and he returned to the US and held his ground. I believe he even threatened to run away and get married himself if his parents didn’t get a move on and agree to his wishes.
While my aunt was still too upset, her husband came to the US to meet the girl. They invited her for coffee or any casual environment so his dad could get to know her. My cousin’s girlfriend refused. She said that unless his dad came to her parents’ house to meet them properly, she wasn’t going to meet him in some restaurant.
At the time, everyone in my family said bad things about her, that she was being disrespectful and a hypocrite because she’s been carrying on a relationship with my cousin where they’ve been meeting alone for a long time, but finds it wrong to meet him and his father in a restaurant.
In retrospect, it was a very sensible thing that she did. Because my cousin put pressure on his mother, and consequently his family went to her parents’ house with a proper rishta. My aunt even had to come to terms with accepting her, even if she wasn’t happy about it in her heart. She had to give the girl and her family the accorded respect. Their wedding was in Pakistan, and my aunt and uncle did it properly.
In the end, it helped everyone. Because now my aunt and uncle come to visit the US for long periods of time and they stay with their son and his wife. His wife is obligated to keep them and can’t throw fits because they treated her with respect when she got married as well.
How is LaBaby’s cousin even thinking about going to his house when her own parents are still in the dark about this!??! Its so stupid. She needs to come clean to her parents. Unless both sides’ parents are involved and agreeable, this isn’t going to end well.