Plz share your thoughts.
What if people stopped having kids
Lol. It’s already happening, Nomi. People have stopped reproducing in many parts of the world. Those countries are known as demographic time-bombs.
Then the world will end with end of last remaining generation. You want that to happen?
Why is it essential to even have ?fulfilled married life/partnership?? children come after that.
My belief is that we bring children to this world for our own amusement, pleasure and joy. Bringing them up, giving them good education and upbringing is our obligation and not a favour on our children from any sense of imagination. This is ideally achieved by two loving and sensible parents working together for the benefit of their kids.
So I would say it?s not essential to have kids for a fulfilled married life but it is essential to have a fulfilled married life/partnership in order to have kids.
I don’t think having kids is essential for a fulfilled married life. Sane partners are essential for that.
I am going to get my tubes tied
I don’t think it is essential. It should only happen if both partners are willing and ready to bring life into this world and raise a child. Too many people have kids just to have them and it shows through their terrible parenting.
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Its a good topic and has a depth in it.
Here is my two-cents opinion:
Are kids essential of fulfilled couple relationship? Depends upon the definition of fulfillment. How many couples are out there who can claim that the love or emotional spark or whatever you name it they felt the first day, they still feel the same after these many years? The majority would suggest that they dont. Eventually everything starts fading away, and the same attraction doesnt exist anymore. And if there are no kids in between, it just divides them more.
However if there are kids, the love & joy gets multibound increased and then the family bonding starts nourishing like nothing else. Thats why having kids is always a good idea.
But there are couples, specially in the west who are married yet they dont have any children and they still love each other the same way. So they are attaining the fulfillment. But if we check the count, I think they are in minority. Majority still want babies to complete their life cycle.
I’ve a example in my own family who announced they arent gona have kids ever and they still love the same way. But for others it might be tough to practically make it happen.
[USER=“317761”]Mrs NomiCA[/USER] what have you been feeding him. Now he dun wanna have kids?
It’s not essential. It’s just one of those rules of society like countless others that have been ingrained in us. You don’t have to follow it and if you are good at shutting out people’s gossip and rumors, you should be ok.
A bit unrelated but I have seen so many women who go into postpartum depression after giving birth and that takes a pretty big toll on the relationship without their intention especially since many are unaware of having it and their husbands don’t understand it.
In a good relationship the love grows with time and in a bad one it dulls, it is called emotional credits, if you keep doing nice things for each other than love grows. You absolutely do not need kids to make marriage work. here it seems having kids makes the marriage break in many cases. Time, energy, work involved add to the stress. Now the kids are grown up and I feel we can enjoy each others company. It was so much fun in Mexico, we went to a new restaurant every day and enjoyed each other’s company so much. One power couple we worked with chose not to have kids, they travel a lot have really nice stuff, workout all the time also. Kids here are thankless and will not look after aging parents so it is one way street only.
To ensure the increase of human population.
Kids aren’t going to fix a broken marriage, that’s for sure but in a loving home you increase the people you love.
Like I was having lunch with my grandmother and realised she had 9 people on her table just because she chose to procreate; her kids, her grandkids and her greats. She was incredibly social so had plenty of friends but her parents were long gone and so was her husband and most of her siblings. We were her family now. So you kind of expand people you love and care for.
the planet is 90 percent overpopulated and over 99 percent of us are bad to the mother earth so if population growth slowed down it wouldn’t be a bad thing. In 50 or so years humans will be born in labs and soon they will have technology where some humans could live for hundreds of years.
You can find love and be engaged without kids, many older people volunteer in church groups at our huge rec center many retired people come to exercise and then dozens hang out at the coffee shop just mingling.
For my generation they say that we are the last ones who took care of parents the new generations won’t.
Some people may stop having kids, but those who will continue to reproduce are likely to outnumber those who will not for foreseeable future.
The desire to reproduce is Biological. A product of millions of years of evolution.
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[USER=“317761”]Mrs NomiCA[/USER] what have you been feeding him. Now he dun wanna have kids?
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[USER=“317761”]Mrs NomiCA[/USER] cannot feed her husband
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ab apko bache bi nahi chahiye ?? dekhe log hume kaise baatein kar rahe hein. yeh din bhi dekhana tha ap ne mujhe 
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It’s only fulfilling if both people want kids.
I have a friend of a friend who rather not have any or will only have one to keep her husband happy.
I like kids. I think a couple learns so much about each other and grows together in so many different ways while raising them. You learn to be more patient, adaptive, etc.
Religiously speaking raising your kids right is fulfilling because you hope your kids will add value into the world, make it a better place for the next generation and do good deeds which will then be passed back to you as sadaqa e jariya.
Life goes on
Or you start keeping pets and have them as your maternal outlet