so scared of an independent women?
dont argue , i think its true.You want to see women in a dukhi ,mazloom mode always dependent on men.
Re: why is a desi community
LOL stereotype much?
In my Clan the current chief is a woman, no joke she has been running the Desi community round here for twenty years… 
Naturally I’m a thorn in the side of that establishment but I have to admit the crone controls everything behind the scenes… Thoubah thoubah back home she would be put on trail as a Witch.
Re: why is a desi community
Why? Have you been living under a rock? Everyone knows it's because they come out from your closet of from under the bed and scare you at night.
Re: why is a desi community
For some people, independence is synonymous with a loss of power or control over the other person. Perceived as a threat more than that a positive quality. Insecurity perhaps. Also, in some cultures the actions of the subjugated person or gender determine the "izzat" or reputation of the more dominant person.
Re: why is a desi community
@rolla_coaster: are you from stone age? those days are gone .. ..
Re: why is a desi community
^Not really. Very independent women still often run the risk of being tagged as Tez and what not- negatively.
Re: why is a desi community
those days are not gone.
Re: why is a desi community
^^ philo u sounds lik multi of rolla … sachii …
sach sach bata do r u … ?
Re: why is a desi community
A matter of control? I think it's more to do with the fact that seeing a woman who's successful, ambitious, driven and ambitious ultimately leads to self-analysis.......i guess some find it uncomfortable and aren't happy with having to really look at themselves, their achievements....their own lives.
Re: why is a desi community
Don't get married or ever have a kid. Because being pregnant means you'll be dependent on your husband, you wouldn't want that!
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^What?
Re: why is a desi community
Don't get married or ever have a kid. Because being pregnant means you'll be dependent on your husband, you wouldn't want that!
In today's day and age, you don't need a husband to get pregnant.
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Notice how its mostly the men saying "no its not true."
I think most women feel it and men refuse to accept it.
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Lol I was joking. Because when a woman's pregnant, she really can't move around as well etc.
But in all seriousness, I suppose it depends on the family. In general, from what I've seen anyways, I wouldn't say women are told not to be independent. What I do think though, is that only one person in the family can have a power career. Those types of jobs usually require long hours and unless you plan on having a nanny raise your kids, both people can't be coming home late every night. I'm assuming by independence you were referring to a job, financial stability etc.
Re: why is a desi community
so scared of an independent women?
dont argue , i think its true.You want to see women in a dukhi ,mazloom mode always dependent on men.
Because everyone knows if all women become independent, the incompetent, gutless men in our society can never compete. And that is why they are afraid.
Re: why is a desi community
Because an independent woman might not make them parathay every day or believe in the negative aspects of our culture that some people believe is also Islam…