I think so, and it is one of the reasons I dislike being Pakistan, I mean people will look at our country and say why do they kill Christians, Shi’as etc in there own country, there own citizens, I got Pashtun, Hazara and Baloch friends to who were born and Pakistan and what do they tell me, all Pakistan is for the Punjabis, it’s like we’re the best ones for Pakistan., I also dislike some aspects of the culture, you know inter family marriages etc, my father has already said he’s said me up with a bride from Spain, I didn’t get no permission, but he said it’s happening, and I’ll be real with you, if I don’t married, then what will it mean, it’ll mean I’ll probably be disliked, maybe even disowned, I’m the oldest, I’m almost 16, but my dad wants me to get married 18, but set up it 16, it’s mad, not to mention the additional stuff such as the bad reports you hear on the media. I’ve been feeling this way for a long time and I want to start changing my feelings for my origin country, I don’t particularly like being a Punjabi Pakistan, cant find anything good about being one, but I still find it difficult to like Pakistan or even admit that I’m Pakistani, perhaps I have an inferioty complex.
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you sound 7!
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I’m a teenager so maybe it’s understable lol
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please learn some lessons from @jasos
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Errr… you sound quite childish indeed.
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I can understand your frustration. None of it is your fault.
About Punjabis, it is not like ordinary Punjabis benefit from anything. The elite from all communities takes away everything. The elite from other provinces just blames Punjabis so that they can justify their own corruption and tell their people why they are backwards. Not saying that there are ethnic issues but just that ordinary citizens get worse anyways. A village in Punjab is as much troubled as any village elsewhere.
About you getting married, I cannot say much. Seems your family traditions dictate that. Nothing to do with country.
However, there is a good news! When something is broken, there are so many ways people can help mend it. If you move abroad, systems are great, education is nice, very little corruption, etc. You work and you make money and you die.
However, being Pakistani, you can have a fulfilling life. There are so many things to be fixed that you can contribute a little and feel good about yourself. At least you can help improve lives of many people, which you cannot do living in a first world country.
So many developed countries have much higher suicide rate than Pakistan. A lot of them do this because they don’t really know what to do with their lives!
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Thank you bro, this is the kind of response I needed, one thing I love is football, if Pakistan ever made it to the World Cup, I was hoping when I’m older I may start studies in sports and football and perhaps move to Pakistan looking for talent, a scout if you like.
You’re getting set up with a Spanish bird!! I would be eternally grateful to my dad
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No habla espanol - may be the problem.
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Pimusler mate, made me learn spanish in 6 months. OLE’
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Spanish pakistani lol
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I must say i know a lot of other pakistanis here who also dislike being Pakistani, they pretend to be Arabs, perhaps its just a location thing, im born in England, but if I was born in Germany maybe it’d ve better
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LOL. You live in England. You were born there. Your father sets you up with a Spanish girl. Hard to believe, too good to be true, but even if it is, sorry but you sound very immature and childish. Don’t like being a Punjabi, sod off. You aren’t. You’re a British Pakistani, lose your identity, like many others. Thanks!
Oh and FYI there’s many good things about being a Punjabi, but sadly you will never know them! The people that pretend to be other nationalities, are just people suffering from complexes. There’s no nation on earth, that isn’t plagued with problems. Pakistan just happens to be one of the countries, that is plagued with more than its fair share. Pakistan will get there, Pakistan is progressing slowly and steadily, but we don’t want people like you on our side meanwhile!
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Why this Kolaveri, di?
OP is 16. Harsh words, IMO
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Op, most Pakistani parents that I have come across (Punjabi or not) do not favor their sons getting married at 16. That’s one less thing you can attribute as a generalization to Pakistani culture…woohoo!!! If your dad insists on you being a teenaged husband, you will find numerous other Pakistani, Punjabi dads who would not back him up. Revel in the thought that you just might be among the minority for once. The undesired minority as opposed to the more sounder-minded majority. Oh the irony!!!
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There is a lot wrong with Pakistan itself, the sectarian and ethnic politics and a lot of it is really lame. You did not cause it, support it or promote it. I don’t see a reason for you to fret about actions of people in a place you have only a tangential connection now.
You are your own person, your background, origin, race, are things you don’t choose. Who you are and what you do should be a bigger source of pride than these other factors.
So, if part of this is being forced to see against your wishes, be your own person and say n. If this means being booted out of the house then so be it. You can’t make a massive impact on the ethnic issues you noted taking place in Pakistan, however you can oppose cultural/family traditions that impact you directly by opposing them and taking a stand. Maybe that will help you become more independent and on a path to be an individual taking pride in yourself and not pride or embarrassment from things that are only a statistical event.
Also don’t take statements like we don’t need you to heart, gadflies are important, your points are valid and should be a matter of concern to more people, especially those in Pakistan.
Don’t live your life hostage by decisions, biases, apathy and conditions of people, and politician of Pakistan or traditions of your family or opinions of your father.
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Spanish Pakistan.
But i understand, one of the reason ive joined Paklinks was to connect to pakistan more and find out more about it, i dont wish to lose my roots but i cant lie and say i dont feel connected to them either, i also dont feel british either though
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Thank you bro it makes me feel better reading this
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This is great but is it true?? I hear stories of girl getting married of as soon as 15 here.