go to the same girls again n again who have ditched them n cheated on them ? I mean like when such girls come back to them after cheating n all they still welcome them in their life labeling it as second chance. ARe you guys stupid or what? And i have seen them getting dumped second time around too but still they are mental creatures I guess. Whats with such guys? WHy they do this> They know that this particular girl is a cheater, gold digger, just using him for money etc but still they go back running to them. And whats with such girls too? what do they do? Its just they wear hijab as a cover to pretend that look how religious we are or its just guys cant see how they get played & how stupid they are. Such girls really do know how to use their charm but are guys blind? seriously!!!
Same with girls, it is well recognized that girls fall for jerks.It is human nature we go after and value things which are hard to achieve. Morality is not dictated by a piece of cloth.
Opposite attracts?
human = magnet?
It could be inexperience with the dating world and they may think this is how it is. Or it could be insecurity - how they view themselves. If they dont feel worthy (and shitty partners can make u feel that way), they will allow these behaviours to continue because they tolerate it. Eventually shit gets old really fast tho and people do learn and make better decisions. That is why self love and continuing to improve oneself is so important. If you value yourself, you wont let some twat treat you badly
Wish there was an option on GS to make anonymous posts every once in a while. Some topics are just too embarrassing to discuss in detail otherwise. And this is one such topic.
That is so true. The more “experienced” partner makes it all seem normal, and slowly breaks down the less experienced partner with going on and off. It’s like a Chess player vs a Checkers player. It is not something gender or age specific. Both men and women can do that. Some people start dating at age of 15 while others barely start at 30. Also as the saying goes, “the person who cares the least, has the most power”.
This is a big mystery to me too.. i know several women who have repeatedly cheated on their husbands and boyfriends, and the man still dies after them. Despite knowing all detials, even the person they cheated with, the husbands dont care.
where do women find men like that? I cant even get one to like em enough to date, let alone put up with something as horrible as cheating
They are consumed with too many questions. “Am I lacking in some way that she turned to someone else?” “Is there something wrong with me?” “Maybe if I had done things differently...” “Maybe she’ll eventually realize and come back”.....
When do you finally give a cheater the boot and decide to move on without them? It’s when you either already have a healthy self-esteem or when you finally wake up and find your self-respect and realize that you deserve better.
Either the person doesn’t value themselves enough or they are finding it hard to move on from the good memories they had with the person; they are more in the past than the present. Maybe a combo of both.
Lack of self-respect and self-worth due to various reasons, damaged inner children stuck in adult bodies trying to have a 'healthy' adult relationships, might have witnessed cheating or other unhealthy behaviours in childhood and thinks this is normal part of relationships, traumabonding with partner whereby you become so addicted to a (toxic) partner that every abnormal situation makes them become even more clingy instead of pushing them away from the cheating partner, as common sense would dictate.
These behaviours aren't normal, this goes for both those who are unable to move on from (serial) cheaters and those who are the cheating partners. A person who doesn't believe he/she deserves a good partner who respects their relationship AT ALL TIMES, will continue to try and stay with such people as they believe they need to earn love and loyalty and noone else can give it to them but the cheaters themselves. Cheating is a decision, nothing justifies cheating.
Those who cheat lack self-respect too, else they wouldn't be out cheating in the first place. They just try to find attention anywhere they can, and once the other source of admiration and 'love' dries up, many return to the exes they cheated on as options.
Those who cheat, I find it hard to believe that cheaters are sometimes able to see the light and repent and stay faithful forever, and if they do, it will only be a minority. But it's my personal opinion. And how do you truely trust such a person again?
When people give second chances, they do so in the hope that the other person has changed, but it's just an invitation to get hurt again. Real change is painful and messy, ask anyone who had no other option but to give up on changing and forgiving a cheating partner again and again. As redvelvet said, this only happens when the constant pain changes you until you finally realize you need to start respecting yourself. But it doesn't happen automatically, sadly.