Yes I am supporting men and I am not being biased just coz I am a woman. What I have mentioned are the things which I have observed in my life.
If the guy's is successful in making his mom agree to average looking girl, I have seen such marriaged where guy is very handsome and the girl is just average. I guess guys just look for understanding whereas their moms look for many other things.
Alot of the times we say we want this or that in our partner without realising that often we fall for people who may not have most of those things but yet seem appealing to us somehow. But our family go out looking for all those things that we mention and they fail to find someone like that. That's why i think its not a bad idea to have the guy go along the family when looking for rishtas, however i dnt know how comfortable it would be for the girls :( I know i would never like it.
Alot of the times we say we want this or that in our partner without realising that often we fall for people who may not have most of those things but yet seem appealing to us somehow. But our family go out looking for all those things that we mention and they fail to find someone like that. That's why i think its not a bad idea to have the guy go along the family when looking for rishtas, however i dnt know how comfortable it would be for the girls :( I know i would never like it.
It is pathetic for girls. But then there are positive points of bringing guys along. My mom prefers guys come with the family so that my family sees the guy and he sees me; and if the guys side says ok, my family and I have already met the guy so it shortens the process. When the guy and his mom sees the girl at the same time, they go back and discuss the matter and decide accordingly without further wasting our time.
It is pathetic for girls. But then there are positive points of bringing guys along. My mom prefers guys come with the family so that my family sees the guy and he sees me; and if the guys side says ok, my family and I have already met the guy so it shortens the process. When the guy and his mom sees the girl at the same time, they go back and discuss the matter and decide accordingly without further wasting our time.
yah and i think this minimises the chances of the mother underrating the girl for whatevr reasons. bt still must be too awkward for both the guy and the girl
Ashy2010- it feels like your hung up on the fact that your rejected from the Mother's and therefore have a negative thoughts about mother-in-law's in general. Think of it this way: It wasn't meant to be in your kismat, if it was nothing would prevent it from happening.
Some comments on here are absolute ridiculous. Its like marriage is a showcase nowadays. People do it to show off and show the world "Oh look at us".
If you was to beautiful, educated etc then you would probably be married by now. In short looks, education don't automatically qualify you to get a husband. She probs thought "she cant cook, has poor culture, simply wont fit in with out family'.
all of these are just feeble excuses of the insecure minds ..
the MIL's to be are just really scared of 'sharing' their son with another woman. thinking k jo mummy's pet tha wo to 'joru ka ghulam' ho jaye ga :D
other than that ..I don't know why why do people so critically analyze all the potential rishta girls when it comes to them being the 'larke walay' no matter how loserish their son is ....larki 'lakhon mei ek' honi chahye :p
Some comments on here are absolute ridiculous. Its like marriage is a showcase nowadays. People do it to show off and show the world "Oh look at us".
If you was to beautiful, educated etc then you would probably be married by now. In short looks, education don't automatically qualify you to get a husband. She probs thought "she cant cook, has poor culture, simply wont fit in with out family'.
Some comments on here are absolute ridiculous. Its like marriage is a showcase nowadays. People do it to show off and show the world "Oh look at us". If you was to beautiful, educated etc then you would probably be married by now. In short looks, education don't automatically qualify you to get a husband. She probs thought "she cant cook, has poor culture, simply wont fit in with out family'. Jeezo
Ashy2010- it feels like your hung up on the fact that your rejected from the Mother's and therefore have a negative thoughts about mother-in-law's in general. Think of it this way: It wasn't meant to be in your kismat, if it was nothing would prevent it from happening.
Its not just me. Even my friends, cousins (yeah males too) are going through this. Moms usually not easily approve of their sons choice. Why do not they just keep hammering to their sons from childhood that they are NOT allowed to like a girl for their marriage and they will only be allowed to marry if they marry the girl of their moms choice. I have seen so many phaddays where the guys made their mom's lives difficult for their choice of girl and the moms keep on visiting other girls so that they can recommend 'their' choice of girls to their sons. Even moms like those girls, their sons do not agree. If sons are already NOT involved somewhere else, and they like the girl shown by their mom, then the moms think betay ko tau larki bhot pasand agayi, beta tau haath se nikal jai ga shadi k baad. Nahi dosri larki dekhte hain. And then they identify some burai in that larki which their son liked.
Some comments on here are absolute ridiculous. Its like marriage is a showcase nowadays. People do it to show off and show the world "Oh look at us".
If you was to beautiful, educated etc then you would probably be married by now. In short looks, education don't automatically qualify you to get a husband. She probs thought "she cant cook, has poor culture, simply wont fit in with out family'.
Jeezo
So like girls are asked to compromise in their rishtas, won't guys and their families would be compromising a bit too. But even if they like a girl, they keep her in reserve and go on finding a BETTER ONE. You have to be satisfied at one point rather than keep on searching and making girls' lives hell.
