Re: Why don’t most of men remain the same…
Men and women both change during their lives due to increased responsibilities, change of priorities, and also level of commitment.
In the beginning of marriage, women are focused on their husband. Yet once a baby is born, that baby becomes her #1 priority. Why? B/C she’s a mother now and has more responsibilities…her priorities have shifted. I know many women who went to the gym regularly, also dressed up etc. before/early stages of marraige…yet after a while…they stop doing all that.
During dating, most guys are young and somewhat carefree. Its the intial phase where they’re trying to “win” the girl. Right after marriage, he knows he “has” her. The relationship is sealed. Now he’s responsible for a wife. His stress level is higher. As we all know…marriage also brings additions drama/headaches of dealing with in-laws (on both sides), and new “issues” that the man didn’t have to deal with before.
And then there’s baby. After baby, now the man is more responsibilities. Woman is a mother who’s probably focused more on the baby that her husband. Man is more focused on providing a good life for the baby. The relationship is (or should be!) stable and man doesn’t feel the need to constantly re-assure the wife that he loves her. (and of course, there’s the added stress of dealing with a baby and all the new drama that brings related to the extended family!).