SO I have a close friend who went to Pakistan to live with her husband because his visa got rejected. I tried getting in touch with her on Facebook and she kept ignoring. She never told me she went to Pakistan. Anyways after a few attempts of messaging I noticed she deleted me on facebook.
I got worried so I told my mother and she contacted her mother and found out she went to Pakistan. My mom said not to take it personally but most likely she deleted because she is being careful in her susraal .. maybe
someone us watching over her when you message her and she wants to make sure you don’t say anything inappropriate which will make her susraal angry etc
How does that work?
Re: Why do you need to be super careful when you go to Susraal
Nobody's normal sasural keeps tabs on them like this. It's one thing to keep note of how much the new bahu talks on the phone but these days who communicates via speech? Everything is done via typing which is less noticeable.
If she isn't allowed to have her phone or a laptop with her or use it as she does normally than that's extremely wtf activity and certainly not the boundaries of a normal sasural. And if you're privately messaging her then no one can see the communication so her sasural people shouldn't even know anything if they're also her fb friends.
But the behaviour started before she left. No one was controlling her behaviour when she didn't even tell you she was leaving. One of my friends once randomly deleted herself from WhatsApp group about some throwaway comment I made. I didn't even realise how upset she was. She apologised a day later for overreacting. So it was possible there were cracks in the friendship and you didn't even realise.
Re: Why do you need to be super careful when you go to Susraal
^^ Although I do agree with you that normal sasurals don't keep tabs, I won't say it can't be possibility.. just because I've seen it happen.
But I think it could also be that now she's married she just doesn't have the time to log onto facebook. I've had many friends who've stopped using their facebook (even my own bhabhi) because kids and other household duties take up most of their time. Sometimes they don't log on for months and so people decide to just deactivate. I've even done it when work piles up.. so don't take it to heart. Maybe she's just taking a breather from social media or just busy in her life there. If she wants to get in touch with you I'm sure she will find a way.