all of them are a false portrayal of how life, marriage, relationships really are. i’m sure women compare their SOs/Hubbies/fiances to these made up perfect men.
movies like “the Notebook”
A poor and passionate young man falls in love with a rich young woman and gives her a sense of freedom. They soon are separated by their social differences.
or “PS I love You”, “Titanic”…and every other romantic girly flick out there. they mess with a perfect normal person’s head right when they’re little girls.
this opposites attract type of stuff doesn’t work, it ain’t practical, it’s the song of the truly desperate.
movies showing reality, you know where a man might be abusive,verbally/physically, not compromising, not so prince charmingy would prepare us ladies or atleast not put us into a dream world
or even the romantic songs like this one, it’s so beautiful, the lyrics are just Not reality!!
do we see men watching lovey dovey, cinderella, snow white, prince charming type of movies…NO!
felt nothing from titanic but since most women like it, I mentioned it but it was more rolls eyes for me. I was talkin about some those other romantic and even disney movies. we're brain washed right from our childhood
well that comment wasn’t directed towards you, it was just a follow up general comment after my first one to all the meanie trolls but then you replied immediately so i deleted this comment and replied to your first response but then i forgot to put up this comment again…sighs that probably made no sense but thas what happened
Women watch them because it's fun to aww and bawl over mushy romantic sweet nothings, of course! We watched The Notebook together b/c I kept telling him he reminded me so much of Noah's character and we watched it together, I bawled my eyes out multiple times while he quietly watched and I am positive he got emotional too, LOL.
But that movie got a bit too sappy at times, esp. the exaggerated southern accents. A movie we watched and call "our" movie (don't laugh, we're in our 20s and allowed to have "our" movie, akay!?) is a 60's classic w/ Jane Fonda called "Barefoot in the Park", I LOVED it and I think everyone needs to watch this together w/ their SO. It's not mushy or sexual. Just a lighthearted romantic movie w/ some comedy. I wish they made movies like this. Anyways, according to my fiance, I am EXACTLY like the Jane Fonda's character in the film hence it's "our" movie. ;)
The only romantic movie I've ever liked is 'Far and Away'.. The characters are a bit like me and my SO lol.. We would wind each other up and push each others buttons the way those two did.. I was a lot worse to him than he ever was to me tho.. like Nicole Kidman's character at the start..
Because this is the extent of romance girls / women can "supposedly" give to their men (or women to be PC). I guess it can be referred to as gender remorse.
Def. look it up, it’s a sweet, subtle but very sophisticated kind of a romantic movie. I love it. You may need a torrent to download it so PM me if needed.
Apart from romantic movies...why do people watch Spiderman, Transformers, etc? Wouldn't that also be considered a false portrayal? Or do you consider it less of a big deal because such movies are "more" exaggerated/unrealistic than the romantic movies? Since the situations in romantic movies tend to be more realistic than let's say.....Spiderman....that's another reason for the popularity. I think after watching the movie....most people go back to the realization that real life is not like a movie. I think that a lack of interactions with the opposite sex and too much Bollywood....is a combination that can make someone have unrealistic perceptions. And I think that during certain phases....(adolescence, for example)...people have naive perceptions about relationships due to a lack of experiences.
As for messing with the minds of little girls.......why only confine it to movies? Wouldn't it start way earlier than that? With the fairy tales....Cinderella, Snow White, etc. ??? Little girls are likely to be exposed to the books before they're old enough to watch Titanic, PS I Love You...etc. It's a part of growing up....getting hurt, learning from your mistakes, being careful about who trust, etc. I love Pride and Prejudice and variations of it......but in general I don't take the romance movies too seriously...I'm not as into them as I used to be. I prefer scary movies and comedy more.
^right but i did mention the disney movies like cinderella and snow white, the prince charming way of thinking right from the time we're kids. a girl and a guy meet, they fall in love, it was meant to be, they are soulmates...blah blah blah. when it's closer to reality, people tend to have a harder time differentiating between the two, reality and movies, i would think especially when we're thrown that scenario right when we're little girls.
spiderman is far far from reality, a guy that develops super human powers when a spider bites him....or superman, batman, none of them have anything to do with a guy's thoughts on how a woman will be or how relationships, marriage will be. girls start thinking about marriage and the perfect sweet great prince right from that tiny age
i was just venting a bit :D
but i see what you mean by all these mistakes we make as being a part of growing up, the idealized view of relationships and men....getting hurt, learning from your mistakes, being careful about who trust, etc....well said
^But you grew up, Nisha...as most people do. And it's not only with movies...but when people are younger...they tend to have naive/unrealstic/even overconfident views about relationships, careers, their own maturity levels.....a whole bunch of things. It's not just with the movies. What matters more is that you treat the movie like a movie....you understand that life is tougher BUT it CAN sometimes have the wonderful moments that are portrayed in the movies....and sometimes they're better. And when those special moments take place........your negative experiences allow you to enjoy them more . You need a bit of both. Even in the romantic movies....you enjoy watching the happy moments because the movie also portrays trials/tribulations. Without them, the movie would lack depth....the characters would lack depth...it would be rather dull. Something to think about. Characters in the movies...like those in real life....grow and develop...and it's often through adversity.
something about dumbing down to fit into the kekeke giggly brainless girl mold that society and peer pressure demands of you, along with a general lack of any serious female role-models in fiction and fantasy. the only kind of fantasies womenfolk seem to have are about finding a guy and being in love with him. pretty sad. :\
I cry during The Notebook every single time… And in Titanic…Leonardo should NOT have died…he should have stayed alive, married Rose, had babies and lived happily ever after.
You know what it is?
We want a man to do all of those things for us…so badly. He should sweep us off our feet and make us swoon like never before. There is a deep rooted need for affection, love and romance…in most girls…not all. Some women don’t find flowers romantic…I LOVE them.
But you’re right…Hollywood and Bollywood make it very hard for us to have normal expectations of men.
One of my favorite movies is: He’s Just Not That Into You. Its perfect and delivers a great message to all of those girls who believe a guy really doesn’t mean what he says or does.
You all realize what happens in Hollywood or Bollywood does not happen in real life right? You are in fact setting your standards way too high and with no form of realism at all.
real life is...real life. It's nice to have an escape every once in a while. Where things always work out, the guy's really really really hot and mushy...
Not reality!!
but thas what happened
And in Titanic…Leonardo should NOT have died…he should have stayed alive, married Rose, had babies and lived happily ever after. 
