Why do we have to live with inlaws?

queer · August 25, 2011, 5:21pm

Re: Why do we have to live with inlaws?

Oscars 2008

there are advantages and disadvantages to both situations Nadz. I got married 6 months ago, and I DONT live with my in-laws. Yes, its nice to have our own space, and not have to ask if we want to go somewhere, and do our own thing…but at the same time there are things we cant do, that couples who live with the in-laws can do.

I will give you a couple of examples. My friends who have gotten married and live with their in-laws:

dont have to pay rent/mortgage

dont have to buy their own groceries

dont have to pay for internet and cable and home phone connection

dont have to buy all new furniture to furnish their apartment

dont have to buy all new appliances and dishes and utensils

they are able to save more money

they take more vacations than I can

they have people in the house to help them out

if they are sick, they are not expected to still do everything

ramadaan is better with lots of people - me and my husband live alone in this city, and we have no one to have iftar with, or celebrate Eid with!

The grass is always greener on the other side! We always want what we dont have! Trust me, its not perfect living on your own either. Like I listed above, my husband and I have to do all that stuff on our own, and because of that, we cant fully enjoy doing everything we want. I would love to travel more, but because we have so many expenses, its not possible. It was really hard setting up house at the beginning. And we have to be careful about what we are spending, to make sure at the end of the month we have enough money for rent, for groceries, for electricity, for our car payments, for our insurance, for our outings, for savings.

Be thankful to Allah you have a free roof over your head, free food to eat, free internet connection, free satelite, etc. Cause when you have to pay for this all on your own, then you will realize the advantage to living with your in-laws.

all these advantages are there even with my backyard tent solution.