There is a lot of society pressure on being married.
n India, marriage is a central issue within people’s lives, where it is the mainstay of family and/or community life. It can be seen as a social and religious compulsory duty towards maintaining family and community bonds. Marital status signifies adulthood, social responsibility and the achievement of personhood.
Traditionally, marriages are arranged between two extended families. Such arrangements are based around economic and inter-family connections. Nowadays amongst middle and upper class families, parents may ask their children with regard to the suitability of their choices, and there are processes whereby the two prospective partners can meet each other regularly before a wedding. Very often such meetings will be chaperoned by some parental figure to ensure nothing untoward occurs. And even while such choice maybe significant, ultimately there no choice about marriage itself. As Herdt states in his book Same Sex Cultures, " full personhood is not achievable until people have married and produced children"
One of the most common problems I’ve faced as a community counselor is of married gay men and their issues. I still remember a young married man who wished to know how to “balance” his life with a wife at home and a male lover in the army, of all things. The issues got sticky as the army lover wanted to come and meet him at home now knowing that along with the parents he would end up meeting his “stepwife” (suatan in Hindi).
Re: Why do we expect every boy to marry and have kids?
I hate the usual obligation too that most cultures have... ur supposed to get married and have kids at some point.. until u do that.. u are not settled.. wtF..
theres 6 billion ppl on his planet.. do all of us really have to keep reproducing?
