Is it for our satisfaction or to generally degrade the other person due to jealousy/ anger?
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Snickers, sweety, you are pregnant and should not be thinking of all this negative stuff. Just relax and enjoy and positive vibes to you and your baby:)
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^^ 
Ppl backbite coz it gives them pleasure and they do it when they dont have anything else 2 do. Whoever backbites doesnt benefit from it any way…
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God, it's rampant in our community. Somebody is too poor, is too cheap, didn't give a nice gift, don't have any taste, someone is too rich, waste money, show off. Maybe backbiting exists somewhere between insecurity and jealousy. As though one is afraid of being viewed as that 'poor' person but jealous that they're not exactly that 'rich' person. One is not content just being themselves.
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at first i thought it was the result of having too much time on your hands and nothing else to talk about…
but i’ve seen enough working/busy women do it and so threw out that theory. 
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People usually backbite because they are insecure and the best defense is offense.
As long as we talk about the bad things in other people, the focus will remain off me.
It is unfortunate but it is a huge part of society.
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well some ladies do have very attractive backs....
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^ LOL
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We backbite because it's fun! Gossip is yummy.
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I haven’t come across a lot of backbiting…but the times i did, i presume stemed from jealousy, which turned into anger and then finally the person resorted to backbiting as a form of revenge i guess…thankfully, ppl around me and in our communities don’t backbite.
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Ok, what exactly IS backbiting ??
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Generally, human being does it to feel "better than him", to some extent "holier than thou" IMO.
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I think some of the members have answered the 'why' part.....:)
I think, we now need to focus on 'how to stop or at least control it'
My mother has this one thing in practice, for past few years.....whenever we get together and our chatting somehow starts to steer towards backbiting....she'll say ''aao koi baat karaiN'' (let's talk ) n we all would get the hint 'baat means ' anything without backbiting' and we'll stop.....this technique even works in big gatherings too ....coz nobody gets offended like when you ask 'stop backbiting' n at least all of us sisters n cousins do know whats meant by 'aao koi baat karaiN' :)
Ammi often quotes a hadith with a very deep meaning....but I think I'm going off topic already....so I better stop.
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Well Ive been complemented on how I never backbite by my friends who know me well. They say they've never met anyone like me.
Its a pity my family don't know that.
The way I think is what reason have I to think or say anything about so and so person I dont know whats in their heart only God knows that. Things aren't always what they seem. I always try to give people the benefit of the doubt. Beacause thats how I would like to be treated. So thats why I never backbite. :)