Re: Why do some sisters prefer not to live with in-laws?
walaikum assalam
there are many reason's why some sister's wouldnt want to live with their in-laws.
The freedom to do what you want without having to consult with anyone other then your husband is one reason. A lot of girls would love to be able to come and go as they please, cook what they want, and set up their home the way they choose. When you live with your in-laws everything becomes a joint decision even with financial matters. She goes into a home that never really feels like HER home.
The other thing is privacy....everyone in the home knows what's going on. You get into an argument with your husband...everyone feels the tension. You stay in the bedroom for too long for some alone time....everyone wonders what you are doing . Last but not least there is the intimacy issue as well. You may feel too shy to be affectionate with your spouse in front of others and all forms of intimacy are confined to the bedroom (for the most part).
Most importantly so many problems arise b/w the girl and in-laws when you live in one household. Many petty arguments, misunderstandings, etc.
There is a reason for that saying "distance makes the heart grow fonder" even if by distance it means buying a house right next door to the in-laws.....at least you can get some personal space that way. Some may find all this to be selfish but in actuality it is a right that every woman should have IF she wants it.