Hmm, i guess it’s kind of like going to a new school you have no desire for. You hate the school from the very beginning…you miss your old friends…your old life…your former idea of a perfect school. But you realize you have little choice but to adjust and it’s going to be tough to conquer your negative feelings. So, you start to settle in. You make new friends…perhaps better than your former ones. And who knows? Eventually you might prefer this place to your previous life.
^It sounds ideal, but in real life…where there are so many variables…not every situation has a happy ending. There are ALSO stories where the person tries to “settle” in the marriage…gives it their best effort…and things remain just as incompatible as they did in the beginning.
But yeah…it makes sense…it’s tougher (or might require more effort/time) to fall for someone you were initially not crazy about.
I’ve known of the ideal outcome occur for 2 couples, but for those 2 i have know of many more that have turned out not so charming. It is a sorry situation.
I don’t think people even need to be in love before marrying someone, but IT SURE WOULD HELP if they DIDN’T DISLIKE EACHOTHER!