Why do Pakistanii men make the worst husbands?

[Iyla]

Re: Why do Pakistanii men make the worst husbands?

@Core2

I have seen this general observation of men in Pakistan. They just don’t understand women and take a wife for granted. This isn’t always true but is most of the time.
Where else in the world besides Pakistan is it seen as unmanly to do the housework? To help ur wife around?
And all Pakistani women I know agree on this point.
A few days ago my brother and his family went to a party at his family friend’s house. There were people of several (Muslim) nationalities there and my brother told me when men started discussing their wives, all the Pakistani men started criticizing their wives whereas the Iranians and Turks and even Arabs and Afghans (not pashtuns) were praising their wives.

Why is it like this?
And is it just me or has anyone noticed that when Pakistani men marry goris they treat them way better than how he would have if he was to have married someone from back home? I have seen this behaviour in my ex-husband as well (and before any Pakistani man tries to link my divorce to my attitudes to Pakistani men, I’d just like to say that he had an affair with his white gf b4 he divorced me).

Aww…sorry to hear about your experience with your ex. That was rotten of him.

Not all Pakistani Men are like that I assure you…but I can understand everyone has their own experiences of course.

MaShaAllah I know many men from my Husband’s side, or via friends etc and my side who are amazingly helpful with their wives. E.g. my FIL is born and bred in Pakistan but he loves making my MIL morning tea etc and during her illness he even learnt how to plait her hair!!!

Keep hopeful and positive…they’re are some great Pakistan Men out there who don’t do the things mentioned above.