Asian folk are usually always late for something or another. Why not set off 10 minutes earlier than usual in anticipation of potential problems that may make you late?! I can understand genuine reasons for people being late (e.g. there has been an accident on the road, road works, car broke down etc) but where there isn't a good enough reason I'd be annoyed at waiting hours for someone to turn up just because they're crap at time management!
And why do so many people turn up late for weddings?! If it says 6.30pm on the cards don't arrive at 8pm for gods sake and then expect a good table and expect people to wait around for you!! At my wedding I will make sure the cards state what time to arrive and for the guests to arrive promptly, 'coz if you're late for my wedding - you don't get fed. Simple :D
I find it really annoying. Not because I'm hungry, but because it's just ridiculous! Even in small dawats with close family, the aunties wait until their sons have arrived or are done playing outside or something before they serve the food! And I'm like, it's your 20-something yo son! He doesn't care! Stop spoiling them! But I only complain like that to people I'm close to.
We had to attend a wedding in Pakistan and we being DUMB Idiots thought the wedding probably will start on time just like in UK and when we got there, the decorations were still going on and the hosts were NOT even there, I think we were still half an hour late than the time given on the card, The food was served at 2 in the morning because some uncle decided to walk out coz his older brother wasnt invited
Its really annoying when people dont value other’s time and keep delaying things because of their CLOSE friends and family
If I ever get my way and actually get married, there will be no guest of honor ( I AM the honor, bi1@&$!!) and food will be served at 8 pm and if you miss it, too bad. Hope your make-up was worth it.
We had our wedding in Karachi and everything happened on time. With a barat from the UK and dulhan-wale from the US, I think the guests weren't sure what to do, and everyone pretty much showed up as instructed!
Thank God, my family is very very time oriented when it comes down to dawats. If somebody gives us 6:30...we all be there at that time. And often time, it would have been awkward because almost no body would show up until 8:30 pm. But regardless, i and we all believe in principal..and if somebody has given me 6:30.pm to be there..i will be there most definitely.
Yeah were always the late family, But mainly its my dad they wait for. And i dont see why not considering it is manners and we do have to come frm a far place. I would feel hurt if they was all finishing eating or in the middle of it if we arrived. It feels nice that they waited for us and hav the respect for us that we have to travel far. Makes you feel appreciated.
^ u know whats funny, all my friends lived in one city while i lived totally far away. yet when the invite said for a certain time i'd always be there on time, whereas the rest would show up hours later. even though they lived in the same neighborhood. i've gotten so sick of this harkat of theirs that i've become the one who is late.
Hmmm well we live 2 hours away from family. So there is ALWAYS alot of traffic on the motorways no matter what time we leave. So everyone knows that. And its not the end of the world tbh eat sumthing little b4 u go sumwhere i guess.
Thats what i do if i go to a wedding i kno i wont get food on time so i eat b4 i go. Simple
Pretend as though you are speaking to the much-awaited VIP guest on your cell phone. Tell host "VIP guest is on their way.......caught up in traffic........it will be a while......has said to serve khana." :p
In my family when we invite guest to our house, we usually serve drinks or some thing to munch on before the BIG meal. So they don't god forbid starve to death.
As for arriving late, yeah We do that too sometimes. If it happens that you do go early to a dinner or dawat not many people are there anyway, and they arrive half an hour later.
MO3 and others -- I'm curious. Why is it a problem if you arrive late and others have started eating? It never bothers me. Why would anyone feel awkward about it?
I think it's all about setting up expectations. If there is an expectation that 7 really means 9 then people are going to go by that. If they know that things are going to start on time, then they will go by that, unless they really can't. But I don't see any point in holding up the function if most guests have arrived.
I hate waiting for people but I'll put up with it purely because I'm not serving dinner TWICE. When someone arrives late and you've already served the food you find yourself reheating things and having to do twice as much as you would have had to do in the first place. There are a few families who are known to be notoriously late so they have a special time. If dinner is at 7pm they're asked to arrive at 6pm.
P.s ever been in the situation where you the GUEST are on time and the host is running late or even isn't home. Now THAT is awkward. We are a family who do everything on time, so we end up getting to weddings when the hall is still empty and there is no one there to greet us. If the wedding card says 12pm, we will be there at 11.59am.
^^ loooll... Well how i see it you jus KNOW asian functions or whatever r gonna be late and every wedding i've been too has been late. So why rush you cud spend that time making yourself look extra stunning! :-)
P.s ever been in the situation where you the GUEST are on time and the host is running late or even isn't home. Now THAT is awkward. We are a family who do everything on time, so we end up getting to weddings when the hall is still empty and there is no one there to greet us. If the wedding card says 12pm, we will be there at 11.59am.
