Re: Why did he do this? :(
I think you should be happy you got lucky and move on.
Re: Why did he do this? :(
Purple, I don't say that using matrimonial sites is something bad. But if you must use them, use them VERY VERY carefully. Desis living abroad have real problem in finding good rishtas so matrimonial sites provide a good medium. If just 10% of the guys on these sites are serious for marriage, it is a good source to connect with them. Some rishta walis use matrimonial sites and thats how they have refered some serious guys/ families to my mom.
The thing is, we girls start investing in a guy emotionally at a very early stage. If a guy just talked nicely and smiled, we start thinking, oh he is interested in me. In order to save us from hurting, we should try to figure out asap about the seriousness of guys for marriage. Through matrimonial sites or through any other source, if you start interacting with a guy with the intention of marriage, try to get your parents approval. Let the guy know that your parents are aware of your interaction. Ask me questions on your parents behalf. Ask the guy to involve his parents after 3-4 talks and if he hesitates, RED FLAG. I really think, meeting/ talking 3-4 times is enough to make a decision whether to consider a girl/ guy for marriage or not. The guy will definitely get more time to get to know even after they introduce their family. So, if a guy is more interested in spending months/ years before he can talk about marriage, RUN.
In my opinion, real shareef mature guys don't start confessing their love like that. There can be implicit expression of liking through complimenting your personality, nature, behaviour etc. But confessing love in bollywood style "I Love U etc" is a very cheap kinda trick usually used by guys for flirting when they are not serious. If a guy is seriously interested in you, he will get to know you genuinely and just don't jump into saying I love u etc. He will make it easy for the process to proceed through family involvement if he really wants you marry you.
A girl should be smart enough to identify guys and their behaviour especially when she is using matrimonial sites.
Purple, be careful next time.
Re: Why did he do this? :(
Think positive..Allah saved u frm a bad one ,he was not goood for u he could do anything bad with u but Allah saved u ..Thanks Allah give some shukrana ..
Re: Why did he do this? :(
Shukr karen! Bach gaii!
Re: Why did he do this? :(
*I hate to say it, but the reason so many of them are on those sites to begin with is because there's something wrong with them and people in the real world wouldn't give them the time of day. *
I agree with this.
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Well, Our Lord is watching and He will definitely let him learn the lesson no matter how much you give him badduas because what goes around comes around, so don't worry about that.
and if possible; refrain from relying on matrimonial sites, always keep your family/parents beside you whenever you get into such relationships. They won't let your feelings go beyond through their guidance, this is what I call a fair relationship. Just pray that you get a person who is able to give respect and get respect. To love is something which is uncertain but respect is more essential element in building of strong relations.
Just be glad that you are out of this crap.