why arrange marriages are best

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Arranged marriage - the best thing that ever happened to motey ganjey fugly desi men...

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I LIKE ARRANGE SHADIS THEY ARE FUN !!!!

Its got to be like a gift warped Dulhan in a box don't know whats in the box

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^ Here you go

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:cb: ^ that could be a love marriage

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Spook :omg: you seriously need some help my friend

there is got to be something personal :omg:

pm kar kay bata day hero kia kia bhai nay taray sath :omg: :omg:

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^ kyoon aap bhai ka 'rear' wash kartey hain joh aap sey rabta kiya jaye?

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haha! the reassuring thing is, she ran away from that ugly monster!

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Now how could you be so sure? For all you know, any running around the two of them might be doing.....could be after their kids.

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They are the lazy person's salvation. Little effort required, everyone else does all the 'hard stuff' for you; you just show up. Durable because since other people have made all the decisions for you, complacency sets in and you lose the ability to make choices with regards to staying/leaving.

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i'm serious women(not all of course but quite a few) look beyond looks if it's "love" we're talking about, maybe he treats her well, respects and cares for her deeply, i can show you so many examples of women that are with men that have other qualities that stand out in a big way other than looks.

unless of course you know the couple personally or they're famous or something......

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^^ lol that is picture of Altaf Hussain (the quaid of MQM) and his ex-wife.

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ooopps, right, ok good to know :)

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from what i have seen, in arrange marriages ppl are more willing to compromise than in love marriages or gf/bf relationships

and i guess that is why they are usually successful

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The are successful because when they go bad - you can blame your parents for the rest of your life. AKA guilt trip.

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In all seriousness I think if anything goes wrong the parents open up a can of whoop, on the misbehaving spouse. Its basically them (parents) controlling you....

forever....

AHHH. (messing)

But yes there is family support, and approval to a level which may not occur in a marriage of your choice. Esp as your parents are happy cos family izzat, relationships etc have increased. (With the other family be it relative/long time friend etc)

Its also a lottery - than again so is anything in life. You could end up with a dud or the jackpot. What you get out it is what you put in! (unless the other person is totally unreceptive)

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buddies thnx 4 ur comments
i also need some critical point to face the audiance
i hope now i can

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From a lot of the threads on here it seems the 'family support' when things go wrong in the marriage (esp if they're cousins) tends to be directed at the husband whilst wife is told 'just try harder' or 'get on with it'.. Often in arranged marriages the families just want the couple to stay together at any cost whether it's infidelity, serious personality clash, abuse.. Obviously love marriages have their own range of problems and issues.. just wanted to point out that arranged marriages are not the bed of roses some ppl like to make them out to be and the lower rates of divorce aren't really a reliable indicator of how well they're working out when u take into account the social stigma of separating in communities where arranged marriages are the norm, the common inability of the ex-wife to support herself inc the issue of where she should live as well as the fact that she may lose access to her children.. Sorry, can't seem to split into paragraphs :(

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I completely agree with this!