yanzala
November 27, 2010, 11:04pm
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Re: why are people like this…
It doesn’t make sense for some uncle to censure you for moving to Pakistan especially when he intends on marrying his daughter to someone from there. But, it’s not like you’re over the moon to move to Pakistan either and your own parents married you to a guy intent on settling in Pak and you married him whilst being fully aware of his plans. And there have been times when you’ve vented your frustrations about desis in the motherland, desis abroad, and desi culture in general. Lol, think you might sorta be a part of your own generalization? The uncle ain’t paying for your ticket and he’s not going to finance your stay in Pak, England, or Mars for that matter. So, his opinion is moot. As Joey, from Friends, would say “It’s a cow’s opinion.” It doesn’t matter what the hell this uncle, or that aunti, or those family “friends”, or some kareebi or door k rishtaydar, or even some non-Pakistanis for that matter think. Do what is best for yourself, marriage, and family.
It’s like it was only yesterday you were venting about the situation and trying to find devious ways to buy some more time from your husband and now it’s like you’re having a “Meh, what’s the big deal about it?” stance. I find it contradictory. Just live your life woman, cuz people will have opinions about what you do (favorable and unsavory) till the crack of doom.
it’s ok yaar. it’s a big deal to move back to pakistan for someone who lived here for a long time. there are always some doubts, some resentments, but at least now she is willing to change her mind, she is trying. human’s arent’ “set in stone” kind of things, we do change our mind over time depending on situation. it’s not fair to make reference to past when we had a different opinion.