Shak
March 3, 2014, 8:07pm
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Re: Why are Pakistani men such begerat?
**Domestic violence in Pakistan is an endemic social problem. According to a study carried out in 2009 by Human Rights Watch , it is estimated that between 70 and 90 percent of women in Pakistan have suffered some form of abuse.[SUP][1]](Domestic violence in Pakistan - Wikipedia )[/SUP] ****Asthugfirullah. I dealt with this in my own house. Good old doctor in front of everyone my father, teaching hadith, then slapping the maulvis daughter in the face for bringing homework to him late, beating wife and kids home, neeend became haraam from hearing my khala’s name, or someone going to the kitchen late at night. Refused to let my mom see his own brothers and sisters who live 30 minutes from us in New Jersey for EIGHT years.
I would say Arabs and Pakistanis are proabbly the worst to their wives. In the states thankfully all of us who deal with stupid fathers like this, seek to learn from their mistakes, and treat our wives like princesses (what I plan to do inshallah), but why this embedded ‘kanjar menality’ in Pakistani men?
For instance in Pakjabi culture, I notice that men think that kids and wife should ‘give’ respect ot the man of the house…respect, for me, is not something given to you by your kids and wive, it is EARNED from them. Why the mentality? Is this one of the symptoms of the Arabization of Pakistan? Could someone explain?
WHat amazes me the most is how the wives who earn these slaps try to protect the husband…I remember myself and brotherw ould protect mom from her beating only to have her protect my dad, like wtf?
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Domestic violence is rife in the Western world too, to accuse all Pakistani men of this behavior is a bit silly. Our country has issues with a crap justice system which means women can’t report it properly. As for protecting husbands, considering how divorced women are treated in our society protecting their abusive husbands vs being kicked out is hardly a surprise.