Thanks guys for ya'll opinions. I think you are all right in different aspects. PSquared, I think you are right. I am too available for him and when I say that he will question me if i dont call him, i mean in the sense that he would be kinda 'suspicious' of me. I am all available for him then suddenly not. I guess, though the fact that we had this argument would obviously lead to the fact that he will realize that I am pissed with him, if i stop calling him. The reason why i call him is simply because it is expensive for him to call me from Pakistan and at the end of the day he is my husband and there is no question as to who calls whom - because we are one, it doesnt matter, as long as e get to speak with each other. I will still call his parents and if my husband answers the phone, ill just ask to speak with his mom - i want him to know that I am pissed with him and he can experience what I have experienced - the cold shoulder. When it comes to the question of our actual relationship, as far as I am concerned there are no issues apart from the fact that i know he is pissed simply because I am not with him. His parents always hint to me that they want me around them i.e his mom says stuff like I cannot manage the house on my own and my husband saying that he is feeling lazy these days and doesnt feel like doing things much because he misses me. I think this whole frustration of us not being together, is being taken out on each other and his father said that things will be OK when I get there to Pakistan, im planning to go in January. The idea of setting a time to speak with each other never worked. When i called him at a particular set time, he again was always too busy/with friends etc (another reason for the argument) or things came up and he couldnt talk. His mom said to me this morning that she has had words with him today about this issue, meaning that he shouldnt put friends over his wife - what really pisses me at the moment is that he really doesnt have an excuse, because he is not working or studying at the moment. He has no committments on his time right now and what is usually the best time to speak to him is not - we cannot speak openly to each other when he is at home because his parents are there and when he is not at home, he is with other people. Just one of those things...
What do you think?
Bunny, for the time being I would just talk to his mom and stay quiet. He can email you, text you or even keep you on the phone when you call to talk to his mom.
Bottom line is, you should make him address this issue because its important to you. The next move is his because he knows you are upset and he needs to do something about it.