Re: Why are doctors so rude when it comes to RISHTA?
I think the reason for this is that in Desi culture people place doctors on a pedestal and give them that type of power, especially when it comes to finding a spouse (ie. “rishtas”). If Desi society stopped treating doctors as if they were the be all and end all of “rishtas,” it is quite likely that this would change.
Many people (and this is not limited to doctors) believe that only they have a right to ask questions and decide because other people have given them the power to behave in this manner by allowing themselves to be treated this way. If someone is meeting with a potential prospect, it is their responsibility to ask the questions that they feel are important, regardless of whether or not the potential prospect is a doctor. After all, isn’t the purpose of meeting to ask questions which help you determine whether or not you are compatible? If the person is open and honest and answers your questions, great. If they do not or if they take offense by your asking questions, then NEXT. You are probably better off without such a person.
However, if a person does not ask the necessary questions and allows themselves to shushed by a potential prospect simply because said prospect is a doctor, then quite frankly, it is their own doing and they need not complain.