dude.. its not imposible
what world are u living in?
edit: i think ur confusign me with mahnoor
common sadzz, be realistic
it might be possible If you say your talking about 2/3 friends.
but not ALL your friends got married got kids, and AFTER that started studying 
the odds are against you 
I m not living in fantasyland though :halo:
Desis are bizarre everywhere in the world. I’m almost 30 and unmarried yet as are 2 or 3 of my friends who are in the same age range and in the same boat. We are all educated, career women and mash’allah there is nothing wrong with us that would lead people to think as to why we’re not married yet but I tell you, where ever you go…dinner parties, weddings, desi functions in general, etc…auntis are talking behind your back about why this or that girl isn’t married yet (not openly but trust me, they do talk). It’s like heaven forbid I have the rabies or something…jeez. Talk about a culture clash.
I think firstly, education is super important…no question about it whatsoever! Complete the education before you embark on marriage or the other option…if parents feel that they’ve found a one-in-a-million rishta for you while you’re still quite young, take the rishta and simultaneously finish off your education, however there is just no need to halt it altogether. Education is a global necessity where ever one is in the world. It isn’t any more or less important if you’re in Pakistan, in the US, the UK, etc.
Also, I believe wholeheartedly that what/when it’s meant to be, it will happen insh’allah. The important thing is not to close out marriage as an option and to secretly be on the lookout for a man who you find is compatible with you…mind you, not to please society since you’re wanting to get married…but for yourself as you feel now is the time to settle down, have children, and devote time towards a meaningful, fulfilling marriage along with having a career and whatnot.
I think the obsession with marrying off the female children is to keep the parents from worry. The longer a girl is single, the more time there is for her to get into trouble. Not that I'm implying that girls are "bad", its just a parents worry. Also, as a girl gets older, her prospects are not as many. The parents want a good catch for their girls and they dont want to have to worry about them. Not a bad thing but it is often overdone!
^ These are all stereotypes...a girl can still get a "good catch" if she hovers around 30 (I still continue to get good rishtas), and a girl doesn't "go bad" the longer she waits to marry. I agree on one point though...parents do continue to worry until the daughter gets married, age not-withstanding.
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education has nothing to do with bringing up kids..
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Absolutely wrong. Of course every woman can give birth to a kid regardless of her education. But the way parents bring up their child, has a lot to do with their education.
If we leave out few exceptions, the quality of upbringing by an educated mother will always be much higher, than that of an uneducated mother.
I very much agree with sweetpie here. Go for your education first.
I disagree Umer. I've seen quite a few "uneducated" women (meaning women who don't have more than a high school education and were married off upon completion of high school) bring up really wonderful kids who went ahead to become successful professionals. Sure, education is important, but "world smarts" education is equally important, if not more so than traditional institutional education. A degree doesn't necessarily make you intelligent.
Alright, I know I went off topic here. Sorry.
Mehnaz,
High School Education in Pakistan is equivalent to two years of college...that's way above the educated criteria set in desi minds. Anyone with Matriculation is considered educated, really.
It's not just desis, but like sadzz said, other cultures have it too..
i have a few lebo and greek frnds they keep complaining about gossipy aunties and relos...
I don't see what the fuss is, I mean it's a woman's choice, what her priorities are. If she is more focussed towards her career rather than marrying and producing kids, then more power to her. It is a pity that desis like infringe upon this right and make it their responsibility to decide what's best for the woman.
all parents supposedly do wat they think is the best for their kids but they ignore the fact that they have their goals and aims in life too specially they ignore girls and i am against this but it is sadly one of the things in our culture i dunno as to wat the solution to this is but i think its 21st century and kids should have a say in front of their parents :k:
I think skhan, you hit the nail on the head. Girls and parents tend to have different priorities at different phases of life. In addition, a girl waiting until her late 20s-early 30s to tie the knot has simply had other concerns on her mind such as staying busy with a career/school; thus not being mentally prepared for marriage. Again, it comes down to priorities.