Re: wht would u do?
if ur mom ask's u to marry a cousin?
pak mein often esa hota hey na? lekin how do u look at it...Mean would u marry ur cousin?
Generally, you should only marry someone who you like and is compatible with who you are. Someone with whom you can build a future. Honestly, I think cousin marriages are okay -- but they shouldn't be the default. If you and a cousin like each other and want to get married, go for it. But multiple generations of cousin marriages are not ideal.
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And wht if u havn't seen him ever only pics? would u prever tht
or prever a cousin with whom u have a really good relationship?
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I would not marry someone I haven't met, cousin or not.
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And another q
i have heard tht ppl who marry with cousins have a bigger chance to have kids with a handicap is tht true? or is tht just a rumor?
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There is a slightly greater risk, but it is small. I know a lot of cousin-couples and mashAllah their kids are fine. The risk is compounded over multiple generations of cousin marriages.
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and wht does the isalm say bout marriages with cousins? or marriages in fam?
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From my understanding, they are allowed, but not required.