i m married n recently we celebrated our first wedding anniversey,relationship betweem me and my husbund is goot but not too much,may be the reason of mismatch ,our marriage was totalley arranged, he is 10 years older than me,he born n brought up in uk and i brought up in pakistan,there ia an year ago but stil there is distance between us. i m so loving and expressive person and express my love for him but he never express his love for me ,he does care and show affection to me , but he never say tht he loves me .he fullfils his all reponsibilities as a husbund and im sure he is sincere husbund ,but i feel he enjoys his and his friend company n sometimes he seems happy when i m not home ,sometimes i ignore his selfishness but sometimes tht really hurts ,can u people tell me wht type or personality he is and wht does he want?
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Thats how we men are 
Try to find some common interest and develop a communication channel. The only thing missing I can see is friendship between you two.
Good Luck 
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men dont express their feelings the way women do.
Girl, if you express feelings to him you deserve it back. You need to communicate with him and tell him exactly what's on your mind.
yup i totally agree with maverick, i knw men r unexpressive, bt they need to take women's feelings into account!!
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rija khan u shud develop friendship relationship , n it doesnt matter hez 10years older thn u ...so he z a respectable thing,though he is.but dont realize him hez older....luk at me my husbnd is 11 years older than me but we dnt bring this difference between two of us,n i never realizes him tht hez older thn me,we r like friendz ,,,,,,,keep any nick name for ur hubby dnt call him by his name,,may be some people find it odd but try it.find out wut he like n dislikes...or ask him calmly wuts the problem becme frank wid him,dnt waste u time in he shud cme first.if he doesnt den u go ahead i no mostly mashraki ladkiya do this including myself but u ve to manage it urself dear...
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he must be a scorpio
you should already know his personality by now and it seems like you got to know it just too well.
Some people are just not expressive..its not something that he wants its something that you should understand.
That’s all the advice you need. :k:
Girl, if you express feelings to him you deserve it back. You need to communicate with him and tell him exactly what's on your mind.
best answer.
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Is he a geeky type always engrossed with his books? Then he may simply lack the capacity for proper emotional communication. He seems decent, i.e. respecting yu and fulfilling responsibilities.
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yeah i think i shud tell him wht i want from him ,,,,,,anyway thanks all of u for ur reply
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Once an elder man at a local mosque told me something.. he said if you never want to be disappointed in life, then don't create an expectations from other people. At that time I was 19yr old and I didn't really bother with his advice thinking kay baba ji ko kiya pata..
but now that I think back.. man was that a golden advice.. if you create expectations that if you do x then he will do the same for you .. then I am sorry you have a high chances of getting disappointed.. you show him that you love him coz you do love him.. his way of showing that he loves you might be completely different but that's OK..
I say you are just a bit nervous, 1 yr isn't that long time .. give it time.. keep smiling and pray to Allah to make things easier and happier.. :)
rijakhan dear..if this is the biggest problem u have in ur marriage..then i say u should count ur lucky stars..no offense..i do not mean to downplay ur parshaniahns..im just saying at least its not that bad this is something u can work on..hes mature he doesnt fight with u or shaks on u like lots of other newly wed females have complained..so with some time and effort things ll get better..
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maybe he feels that because you were both raised so differently, you wouldn't have much in common. try and make an effort to learn more about his interests so that you can have something to share- whether its a hobby of his or reading his favourite book or learning more about his sports team or whatever. i know it sort of seems unfair that you're taking the first step here, but you do seem more concerned about it than he does (at least from what you posted). shared interests can really open up a relationship, and once he realises you're feeling left out and making the effort to be closer, i'm sure he'll reciprocate in kind. if you've had such a formal relationship so far, i can imagine it must be awkward for you to just open up to him about your feelings, and i'll bet he might feel a bit awkward too. try to ease yourself into this process, it won't happen overnight but iA one of these days, there'll be a breakthrough :)
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Hi Rija,
In my experience, men are not as expressive as women AND we cannot change that.
HOWEVER, there is a way to draw him out of his little shell and be more affectionate towards you.
When you bombard a man with "i love you" and things like that, they tend to shy away a little bit. They get overwhelmed. Men like to chase...its the nature of the beast...no offense men. They dont find it fun when they are being chased.
Let HIM come to YOU. Dont be mean or aloof, just get busy doing other things. Pick up a hobby, hang out with some friends, join a club or activity, etc. He sounds like he is a good husband, he just needs to appreciate what he has with you.
In simple words, do what you normally do. Just lay off the overly lovey dovey language until he responds or notices it. Then, act like you have just been very busy. :-)
Once an elder man at a local mosque told me something.. he said if you never want to be disappointed in life, then don't create an expectations from other people. At that time I was 19yr old and I didn't really bother with his advice thinking kay baba ji ko kiya pata..
but now that I think back.. man was that a golden advice.. if you create expectations that if you do x then he will do the same for you .. then I am sorry you have a high chances of getting disappointed.. you show him that you love him coz you do love him.. his way of showing that he loves you might be completely different but that's OK..
I say you are just a bit nervous, 1 yr isn't that long time .. give it time.. keep smiling and pray to Allah to make things easier and happier.. :)
dear ansoon ,as u said tht we shud,nt expect from others,but he is my husband and to expect from husbund is a very natural and normal ,and all tht i m expecting my right to my husband,wht u think about tht