Whose responsibility is it to accommodate out of town guests? The people getting married or the guests?
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In Desi settings its the hosts…make arrangements for the guests…(which usually means stuffing everyone in all available and not-available space in the house 
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I think guests should try their best to find their own accommodation. Organizing the wedding itself is a big stress in itself for the hosts.
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My entire extended family lives in LA, hence my mom believes that when they come to houston for the wedding, they will live at our house. I am against it. It will already be hectic and I really love having my space. Especially when getting ready and sleeping and stuff those last few days before the wedding, it would be hard enough being alone... but with them here it would just be insane.
Arghh I wish desi ppl (especially family members) could be more considerate and learn the concept of a hotel
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^ Agreed, I know if hubby and I were to be guests we would book into a hotel, and probably would accommodate guests of we were the ones inviting. But your right its about time people were a bit more sensitive, the wedding house has enough hassle without having to accommodate guests too.
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traditionally the family always tried to accommodate their out of town guests..especially their relatives (no matter how distant) in their house. "Shaadi wala gar" becomes incredibly full and things become more hectic than they already are in my opinion. I feel bad for the mother always because it also becomes her responsibility on top of everything else - to feed all of these guests all three meals!!! It is a lot of responsibility!!!
I am getting married in another city .. there is no hall in my hometown. The city is pretty far away. So we are all staying in hotels ourselves for a few days. I know that my mom has made arrangements for our immediate family members as well as my fiance's family....
It's still alot of responsibility... financially. Very expensive. Making sure your guests are well fed is still concern for the hostess... so my mom is making arrangements with restaurants and transportation during those days.
Ahh..... so much hassle!!!
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We got the same problem! my parents are paying for everything which is stupid and I had a BIG argument with my dad about it why should we pay for the grooms family too. I went against my parents and told my fiance that if he didnt pay for the guest from his side I will call the wedding off and guess what it worked! hehe I got a lot of scolding from my parents for this but I didnt/dont care since we are paying for everthing else
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Ideally it should be guests themselves.
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Ideally it should be guests themselves.
It would but u know how desis are like
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Sometime the host make arrangements , sometimes they don't so ask in advance and if you cannot foot the bill for your boarding and lodging then don't go. But by no means impose it to the hosts to make arrangements for your boarding and lodging. It it that simple.