Just a random thread about payments and all. How did you guys manage whose side paid what during the wedding? Did u guys split the Mendhi function if there was 1 or did the brides family do mendhi and shaadi and groom side did valima?
Any problems during combined functions?
I know for mine my side is doing it, they offered joint but I thought to save hassle and issues for us to do it.
How was it like for u guys who are now married what did u do?
Also ever heard of the groom payin for his entire valima function? is that normal?
These days, I think there is usually only one mehndi, and the cost is either split or the bride's side does it. But it doesn't have to be that way. Obviously, if the bride's side doesn't want to do a mehndi and the groom's side does, the groom's side would cover it.
Our mehndi was a shared function. One brother's will be shared too. But in the case of several other recent weddings of cousins, siblings, etc, the bride's side has hosted (especially if the groom's side is coming from out of town).
No problems with sharing the function that I know of. If the cost of venue or food are fairly similar, one group could be in charge of one and one group could be in charge of the other.
If the groom doesn't pay for the valima, who does -- you mean him vs. his parents? I think it really depends on the financial situation of each, but I don't think it's weird to expect the groom to cover it, if he can manage.
When I got married my mum paid for the mehndi...
When my bro got married the cost was split so as not to burden the larki waley..
We paid for our daughters mehndi (the boys side did offer,(but I didn't want the hassles )
We booked the hall for mehendi, shaadi, and waalima and we will split the total cost in half. Their guests are double than ours so I guess the mehendi and shaadi are both sort of from our side. But we are also splitting the cost of photographer (before we were going to pay for that too). I would suggest to do it seprately because then you have more control over things. I only got to pick the menu for the shaadi.. their side picked the menu for the other two days. ALso I had to literally yell on top of my lungs for them to hear my opinions.
oh wow, interesting combinations/situations for all of you. My side is doing the Mendhi - boys side did offer too, except I wanted to opt out of any hassle's and so I could do it they way I wanted kind of. I tried saving any possible stress that I could. I just hope it all pans out well :)
I am getting married next month in lahore and the guys family in lahore is in the wedding events business. since both the guy and myself (including my family) are going from the states, we decided to consolidate the functions to save time, money and hassle. since they are experts at this, my family is not worried of letting them take charge. its rather hassle free for us than having to run around like amateurs.
i was bit iffy about combining the baraat and valima into one joint reception with all our guests and all their guests. but now i realize it might be the smarter way. the mehndi will also be combined. so both functions are combined and the total cost is split half way.
We ( girls side) paid for the engagement, and the extra guests that turned up on the night ( 30+!) BUT the fiance paid for the extra things ( so we got hall / food/ decor) he paid to make it more elaborate i.e dancers etc. In-Laws paid for my outfit+ jewellery.
Mehendi = Splitting the costs, we picked the venue its closer to my home then it is to theirs !!
Depends on what both sides discuss these days... If possible Joint events as in one huge mehendi & one massive reception is ideal and easier on both pockets in the long run, especially if living in one city...
We (guys side) -- hosting a Mayoon & Valima, Post Valima Brunch
Girls side - Mehndi & Shaadi
They're bringing about 100 guests for our events & said we could bring the same number to their events.
We were able to get the same photographer/videographer for all our events and that is all we've Split cost on... they will be traveling to all the cities we will need to be in... as the girls side is located about 14 hours away.