alot of people say women do alot of the compromising,
i have seen though that where men do alot of the compromsing, its because of either a] they are from back home and have married a uk/usa national and want passport or b] they have done something to upset the partner and so will do anything to make up for it
i witnessed 3 of my friends marry guys who ended up compromising more than the girls, one girl told me it was because he had cheated on her and was now making it up to her and other 2 guys wanted passports…
OTHERWISE are there guys out there who really do compromise…
girls and guys…if you did compromise..what did you do or give up…
I see alot of disturbed people around.What compromise,cannot live happily?
Cannot they just enjoy life?
I have seen people who are immensely happy with their partners,Life is like "Muaja hi muaja"
Its all about you ,whether you want to entangle yourself or simply wanna enjoy life:)
Re: whose more compromising you or ur partner...
That's hard to measure, Nadz. One partner might compromise financially by paying for expenses, the other might compromise by sacrificing time. One person might compromise by offering security, another might compromise by offering emotional support. Unless there is a serious lack of reciprocation.....keeping score will cause problems.
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the way i look at it.. i dont call it compromise..
once u start calling it that, it becomes all negative and the love somehow loses its value.
Marriage, like all other relationship, relies on a bit of give and take.
No need to measure who does what and how much of it
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Well, the more sensible person in a relationship will compromise in order to make things work since one of them can be dumb enough to understand the intensity of a marital relationship. It does not have to be material benefits or guilt.
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yeh i know the word compromise is not good but its real life and these words are real. and politically correct answers dnt work guys,
yeh i know the word compromise is not good but its real life and these words are real. and politically correct answers dnt work guys,
How would you measure it though? The reason why answers might seem politically correct is because it's tough to measure. Situations vary and it's a subjective issue.
Yes, a girl has to leave the comfort of the house she grew up in to go live with her husband. That could be a compromise unless the girl wanted to move out. Now if she has to live with her in-laws....she would have to compromise** more** than a girl who doesn't have to live with her in-laws. If she and her husband work......then they both are contributing toward expenses. If her husband can afford for her to relax at home while he works for the rest of his life.....then would his "compromise" and "sacrifice" be greater? Or would his sacrifice be equivalent to the exhausting household duties performed by his homemaker wife? Now what if the housewife doesn't do much.....doesn't cook or clean every day.......is her life more easier? And what if both the husband and the wife split up household duties? There might be more compromising for a woman who is financially dependent upon her husband and doesn't have a job or adequate enough skills to find a job. Don't forget that individual personalities also factor into this situation. I have seen very patient guys married to very high-strung domineering women....and they're lucky that they have a patient husband. Had they married men who were equally domineering and stubborn.......that would have been a recipe for disaster.
Am I trying to downplay the efforts of a woman who is a homemaker? Absolutely not. It's tough work! But such things are hard to measure. A guy contributes to the marriage in his own way. A woman contributes to a marriage in her own way. And they contribute differently. It's not easy to compare apples to oranges. EVERY SITUATION/PERSONALITY IS DIFFERENT and that's why relationships have their own unique issues/compromises.
There are days when he will let go of his wishes to accommodate for you....and there are days when you will put your pride to the side and be more accommodating for him. There will be days when you both will try to bargain and meet each other half way. It can't be measured for absolute certainty.
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I compromise by letting him cook. He compromises by letting me let him cook :)
Re: whose more compromising you or ur partner...
Women just think they compromise more because their emotional needs are too demanding and ever present. Plus they vocalize every single compromise they've ever made whereas men and their compromises are more silent and subtle.
How would you measure it though? The reason why answers might seem politically correct is because it's tough to measure. Situations vary and it's a subjective issue.
Yes, a girl has to leave the comfort of the house she grew up in to go live with her husband. That could be a compromise unless the girl wanted to move out. Now if she has to live with her in-laws....she would have to compromise** more** than a girl who doesn't have to live with her in-laws. If she and her husband work......then they both are contributing toward expenses. If her husband can afford for her to relax at home while he works for the rest of his life.....then would his "compromise" and "sacrifice" be greater? Or would his sacrifice be equivalent to the exhausting household duties performed by his homemaker wife? Now what if the housewife doesn't do much.....doesn't cook or clean every day.......is her life more easier? And what if both the husband and the wife split up household duties? There might be more compromising for a woman who is financially dependent upon her husband and doesn't have a job or adequate enough skills to find a job. Don't forget that individual personalities also factor into this situation. I have seen very patient guys married to very high-strung domineering women....and they're lucky that they have a patient husband. Had they married men who were equally domineering and stubborn.......that would have been a recipe for disaster.
Am I trying to downplay the efforts of a woman who is a homemaker? Absolutely not. It's tough work! But such things are hard to measure. A guy contributes to the marriage in his own way. A woman contributes to a marriage in her own way. And they contribute differently. It's not easy to compare apples to oranges. EVERY SITUATION/PERSONALITY IS DIFFERENT and that's why relationships have their own unique issues/compromises.
There are days when he will let go of his wishes to accommodate for you....and there are days when you will put your pride to the side and be more accommodating for him. There will be days when you both will try to bargain and meet each other half way. It can't be measured for absolute certainty.
I agree! I don't think it's the woman that always compromises. Men work hard to earn a living and provide for their family. And some women do have the luxury of staying at home or doing something part time and having a maid to do the cleaning and having in-laws that are very accommodating and caring. The wife isn't a poor little victim who keeps giving and the husband keeps taking. True, there are some pretty sad and blatantly unfair cases out there where the women gives it her all only to get criticism from her husband or in-laws, but you can't generalize.
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i think on average in our culture normally a girl always compromise more n her sacrifices r more as compared to a man in making up a relationship.