Re: Who’s to blame?
Obviously you cannot say in any case of a child going astray that it was just the parent’s fault or just the child’s fault.
There is always one black sheep in a family, and it is a point to wonder about as to why that happens.
Why is it that that child continues on with that behavior and noone can control it? Is it because it cannot be controlled or noone is willing to control it? Is that one kid’s bad behavior helping fulfill needs of other family members? For example, when parents are focused on that one child’s bad behavior, the rest of the siblings can get away with a lot of other stuff that parents don’t have the time to check up on. So the rest of the siblings could be enabling that person’s behaviors. And I am not saying this in a conspiracy theory type of way. Also, focusing on that one child’s bad behavior maybe helping the parents avoid dealing with their own problems. And again the bad kids behavior gets enabled.