Who's lying, the vulnerable girl or the nice guy?

[Mad_Hatter]

Re: Who’s lying, the vulnerable girl or the nice guy?

@Paheli00

Where did the “midhandling” take place? In her house? Its your 2nd post that makes the guy look bad. As a professional in your organization, was it within his job description to reach out to this young girl? How did he find out her contact info? Did he make any of his colleagues aware of his intention to “help” this girl? Exactly HOW did he plan on helping her if it wasn’t within his job description?.

Okay, the way our job works, we would all have access to her (and most client’s) history, contact details and stuff unless it was specified that no one has access. Cos it’s a government role, it’s pretty much standard that we have to have accurate knowledge about a client so that we don’t do anything stupid or say that ‘we didn’t know that she was blah blah blah’ afterwards. Obv it’s not as carefree as I’m making it sound, we have the Data Protection act and also a lot of laws and training in place to prevent any abuse of knowledge and stuff like that.

Right, second point is that although it’s not in his job descriptions (perhaps, we don;t know why he spoke to her yet!) it still may not be THAT unusual for him to talk to her - our office is sometimes understaffed. Also, cos he and I are the only Pakistani people in the office place, (the girl is too) and sometimes they’ll send us to speak to Pakistani clients to make them feel more comfortable. I’ve been sent to plenty of clients who can only speak Urdu cos they feel more comfortable with me - yet they have nothing to do with my own job role.

BUT the point remains that she was English-speaking, he had no reason to speak to her that we know about yet, and I’ve no idea where the incident took place, haven’t found that out yet. I’m pretty sure he wouldn’t tell his colleagues and nor would they ask either, we’re waaayyy too busy to ask about individual cases.

@Paheli00

None of the above really makes a a different when it comes to criminal behavior. If you read details about serial killers, serial rapists etc., quite a few of them also came across as “gentle” and “nice” to others before their arrest/conviction. I’m NOT saying this guy is a psycho criminal. My point is that “soft spoken, nice guys” with wife/newborn are more than capable of doing things you wouldn’t think they would do.

I understand that it doesn’t mean nice guys can’t do bad things, of course not. I was just giving that as my own insight into what I know about the guy. Nothing like this has happened before with him, and I only say that he seems happily married cos he was dating his wife for several years so why would he want to try it on with a young girl? But don’t think I’m standing up for the guy only, I’ve met the girl and she has been through A LOT. So if something did happen and she reported it, I would want it to be taken seriously, of course, and I would hate for her to have more pain that she already has.

Just trying to get both sides of the story is all