Okay so here’s a situation for you lot, tell me who’s the liar.
One of my work colleagues has been suspended recently, because an allegation was made against him. Let’s call him Bob.
Basically my organisation deals with a lot of homeless clients, substance misuse clients and domestic violence (DV) victims.
There is a young woman, who is a DV case and is looking to be helped by us, she has been in a few bad situations since she left home for DV reasons (i.e. bad boyfriends etc etc), although she is only about 22 years old.
The young girl has made an allegation that Bob said that he was gonna help her, and has tried to mishandle her and kiss her. I’m not sure exactly the extent of what he did, and his behaviour as it’s not been told to us, but it’s still a very serious allegation.
Bob is denying everything. He’s a fairly young guy, been married about a year and has a newborn baby, and from my own experience is a very soft-spoken, generally nice guy.
Once, he gave a homeless guy £20 from his own pocket cos the homeless guy was whinging about being homeless (I would have told him to take a running jump). BUT, he’s quite laidback about his work, used to (apparently) be a bit of a playboy before he got married, but has always been a gentlemen while at work.
The girl, on the other hand, is running away from a severe abuse situation, has been in bad relationship resulting in more DV, and is living in a hostel now cos she has nowhere to go. I don’t mean to stereotype, but I’ve found that some women in cases of abuse often end up with men who may take advantage of them or abuse them more. Having said that, I’ve met her myself and she’s very gentle, fairly quiet and seems to know wrong from right in general.
My question to you is this, did Bob do it or not? She is refusing to withdraw her allegation, so it’s being investigated, but do you think she could be making it up to help her own housing situation, or do you think that sometimes nice guys can do bad things like this.