Whom would you like to marry ?

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Nutwer:

I obviously did not read the entire thread......such is the case of a stupid answer that I gave. Of course if this were true in my lfie I would wonder about the inside of the person and their heart more than anything else.

Following against what I felt God wanted has never led to anything but disappointment and hurt in my life....hence putting Him first will always give you lasting treaures that you may not be able to see yet.

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I just dont get why people dont get, a hairy face is not attractive the same way a hairy faced women isnt!

Beauty is good.

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Sana:

Everybody prefers perfection. It does not exist is the problem. To be frank Mr.B is possibly extreme opposed to perfect.

Deen also says 'for the perfect beliver this world is hell and death a release'

and Once again outward good acts do not imply a man is neeceserily pious.

And its not only religious acts that make you pious.
I know of people that observe the kind of level of relgious acts of Mr B, but then they lack other and also important traits. Everybody has limited time and energy and it just is impossible to be perfect in deen and duniya according to the greater requirements of todays time.

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the two mentioned options could be just one person's life. though it depends at what stage of their lives you met these people.

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Nutwer:

Wow.....I am definitely not a perfect person but I do believe that this life is like hell and I feel a surge of release whenever I think about what comes next.

Now, before anyone says I am a nut, an extremist, or anything else negative, let me say that I am not. ( Have you ever heard a more convincing arguement? hahaha)

But, in reality, I am not perfect, however, I have had my beliefs since a young child. I was a Christian for many years(ahem...no need to say EXACTLY how many those years are! haah) before I converted to Islam about 1 year ago. It was a feeling of coming home, to a belief I had held in my heart my whole life yet never found. I have also never quite fit in with the women I have met throughout my life. I was always called "öld fashioned" , or "not liberated", or many other ugly remarks that slid right off like water. I really didn't care, as I kept to myself, and had my God with me at all times.

I thank God that I have never been in the above named situation, nor have I ever had to make such a choice in the least....but if I did I would hope to make the best one possible. Now, having met a perfect man for me, (who just happens to be Pakistani), I am on to a wonderful life, how ever long God will's it......but my point to him (fiance) has always been, no need to be sorrowful about how many years we have together here, because this life is only a temporary existence. And what lies ahead is beyond any happiness this earth can offer.

So, in short..........death; a release? Yes.....but I would never quicken the process. I will leave that in the hands of the ALmighty to decide the when and where's of that. Not by my hand, and hopefully not by another's hands, but in His hands alone.

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Option A would be JURU KA GHULAM .. :D .. lol ..

and secondly .. .. would you marry someone i recommend? or ANYONE on GS recommend? .. .. dude .. makr ur own choice .. and if you are confuse .. do ISTIKHARA .. ..

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I prefer playing a gamble

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sana. I never intended to undermine or offend, you if that I have. My posts were always directed at the topic.

Well it is true: 'For the perfect believer this world is prison/hell and death a release/paradise'

Its impressive hearing your story and of your conversion makes all the muslims here glad.
And it's not-unbelievable you are a better muslim than many on this thread.
I did not mean that people with higher iman than others do not exist.
What I implied was that perfection does not, and I still do.

Back to subject::

Assuming both individuals start with the same premise , i.e living in the west

Analysing the traits of mr.B imply from a practical point of view; He holds a excellent personality, excellent wordly achievments and career, excellent understanding and practice of deen .

I do not know about yourself, however myself frankly speaking have yet to see a true all-rounder person in a western enviroment.

I maintain my comments that outward appearances are of less importance. Although it is Islamically more preferable to adopt the beard and adopt the dress code of the Prophet (pbuh) it is not a major determinant of ones iman, and it could be and often is the case that a western dress-code person is a better muslim than one of the Prophets dress-code.
Preaching or observance of greater religious practices is not also always an indicator of better iman, where the O.P would too be aware that there are many a-hadiths illustrating certain such people being condemned by Allah because of the lack of good personalities or intentions.

Back to original matter. Taking it literally as the O.P has stated; Mr.B, with respect to the present time, although being better than mr A I would still think he is a bit extreme.

Alternativly, One could say if Mr.B's turned slightly less extreme, maybe not as attractive and as much attention serving to wife as mr.a but yes a better muslim.

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Option B without a second thought.

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Assuming you change the gender, i.e. make the question about two types of girls and replace beard with hijab/niqab, I'll say neither, because according to the last line of the descriptions you gave, they're both mushrik.

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Alright who removed my post? It was extremely relevant to the subject matter.

Here again in its full glory:

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For **** Sake. Not another one of these threads
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A sounds like you'll get bored of him if he's just a doormat. A guy should have his own opinions as well, otherwise there's no interest in a relationship. B sounds too extreme imo. As someone said he's trying to be perfect. But you shouldn't judge just on appearances. If you're as conservative then he sounds good. Otherwise, down the line, how would you raise your kids? What if he didn't like how you dress etc?

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So Ghost which do you find more attractive shaven or hairy?

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option B....atleast i know he will treat me right!

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Well considering I'm a guy, I prefer my women relatively hairless ;)

I was speaking more in terms of appearances relative to each other. If a guy/girl dresses in a more western manner and their spouse is conservative it might clash.

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I wish there were more options.lol. Generally, a lady would probably want someone who has a good job, a nice car, a good house, is a bit taller than her, who cares, is sensitive, confident, sweet, faithful, funny. :)