Re: Who would remember you after you die.. ?
I agree to this, but you see it has been mentioned in the hadiths that our sincere prayers reach the people whom we pray for. Now why do we pray for them, ( mostly because they have either helped/ benefited us in any way or were very kind / generous / polite or were related to us in anyway)
It is similar to the fact that when a student gets first position in his class, ofcourse it was due to his "own" hard work (which is what matters) BUT he would definately give credit to his parents more than himself because they had guided/ helped him in achieving his aim. No one would say that you need good parents inorder to get a Gold Medal in university, but they do play a vital role indirectly.
When that student gets a good job and thinks that now it is time for him to earn money for his parents and serve them for all their sacrifices they did for him, but unfortunately his parents die. Now the only way he can serve his parents is to pray from Allah to bless them for all the sacrifices they gave for him ( Which is also a translation of a Dua for parents mentioned in the Quran)
Kindly forgive me if I don't make any sense, but this is how I sincerely feel. Though I might be wrong. Allah knows BEST!
Well I would translate that as the parents did good deeds by sacrificing, guiding and educating their son...which to me in itself would score good points in their favour...therefore, still pointing to one's deeds.
Let me ask you, what if parents did not help or look after their son....and he still does duas or whatever after their death...would they get higher marks in God's eyes for this?
Basically I think the son doing duas after the parents death is only placating his own grief.