armali 
comeon don’t make her feel bad…Giving respect to elders will never make you a second class citizen of the house. She has all the rights on her husband. I’m sorry but that kind of advice can make their relationship even worse…
I agree with the part where you said the husband won’t do anything that’s not because they’re whipped by the mother that’s because he loves them both the same so it’s never a good idea to get him involved in these matters…no?
and Nazoo if you recently got married give it sometime because it does take some time to win the hearts of your in-laws. And once you have their hearts trust me things will get better