life had been so much peaceful, though not so interesting not so full of excitment but it was very calm and worth-living. then one day you came by someone whom you dont know..whom you never expected or wished for in you life. then that person becomes so much important for you..that person makes your life colorful and full of joy. lives with you for an extended period of time, saying you made his life worthy for him, you r the most precious person in his life. you share your joys sorrows your problems your feelings, worries and even your-own-self with that person. and one day that person leaves saying v have to part away..v were not made for each other. its life..just forget and move on…
why does it happen.
its said v go against the teachings of Islam so v will be punished. but who made you come across that person? who’s plan was this?
you never had wished for him/her in you life, you never knew him, you never thought him to be with you.
but he was brought in there.. he was there for you for a long time. destiny never snatched him from you till you were just thinking him just a random person. or agar he was not in your destiny then why he was brought into you life..
v will be punished for our evil deeds but who will punish destiny?
P.S
many people will say that if he was just a random person in begining then how come he became that much important for you that you are blaming destiny now.
tell me just one thing if you get something ( some non-living object) you had never wished for but you get it somehow and that thing stays with you for so many years and you use it everyday. will not be you used to of that thing? will not you desire for that thing to be with you forever?
if yes then tell me if you replace that thing with a human being, who talks, who cares, who admires, who shows love for you will not be you attracted towards him?
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if not then whats the secret of it? guide me and others who fall through doing so.
The one I am going to share might be a weak hadith but I heard it from people who follow authentic sources. I am sharing it here because it makes sense to me. May Allah (Swt) forgive mistakes from my side.
When the Prophet (saw) went on Mairaaj, on the first sky he saw a layer. Some beautiful things were rising from the earth and when they hit that layer, they became even more beautiful and went back to earth. Some ugly things that rose from the earth in the same manner but when they hit that layer they became even more uglier and returned to earth.
When the Prophet (Saw) asked Hazrat Jibrail (a.s) about it, he replied that the things rising from earth are the deeds of people, and things returning to earth are the decisions of Allah (swt) regarding the person who has sent those deeds.The more beautiful the deeds sent towards Allah (Swt), the more beautiful the decisions Allah (Swt) sends back for him and vice versa.
But of course, Allah (swt) is the most merciful of all. He never makes bad decisions. So, whatever HE decides is still in our best interest. Whether we like it or not, whether it is a punishment to warn us or it is a reward to encourage us or it is something beyond our perception. We don't have the mental capabilities to understand the wisdom and blessings that come along those decisions.
I think Allah swt marks each of our paths differently and gives us experiences along the way that teach us things and help us grow.
There is nothing anyone can say right now at this moment to make you feel better...but trust me...it does get easier and better. One day you get to a point where you realize why things happened the way they did. Sometimes you're grateful you were taught a lesson, sometimes you regret making mistakes and sometimes its a little bit of both...but you do move on.
As for the "why"...there is no answer for that. All you can do is make the best of what life deals you. If life gives you lemons, you make lemonade.
The one I am going to share might be a weak hadith but I heard it from people who follow authentic sources. I am sharing it here because it makes sense to me.
When the Prophet (saw) went on Maraj, on the first sky he saw a layer. Some beautiful things were rising from the earth and when they hit that layer, they became even more beautiful and went back to earth. Some ugly things that rose from the earth in the same manner but when it hit the sky it became even more uglier and returned to earth.
When the Prophet (Saw) asked Hazrat Jibrail (a.s) about it, he replied that the things rising from earth are the deeds of people, and things returning to earth are the decisions of Allah (swt) regarding the person who has sent those deeds.
though i have never read or heard it before..but it is beautiful..
what i could make out of your post is, when someone does wrong or evil he will face the same, is the interpretation of your post right?
I think Allah swt marks each of our paths differently and gives us experiences along the way that teach us things and help us grow.
There is nothing anyone can say right now at this moment to make you feel better...but trust me...it does get easier and better. One day you get to a point where you realize why things happened the way they did. Sometimes you're grateful you were taught a lesson, sometimes you regret making mistakes and sometimes its a little bit of both...but you do move on.
the feeling of remorse is indeed there....but some times it feels that it was not fair. if you were honest then why this happened to you?
the feeling of remorse is indeed there....but some times it feels that it was not fair. if you were honest then why this happened to you?
Being honest is good. But being careful is better.
Life does not look fair to us but Allah swt is indeed fair...even when something bad happens. It seems from your post you are heartbroken and are trying to find out where you went wrong.
You may not have done anything wrong...but that does not mean destiny does not have a job to do. If you did your best and things didnt work out...then its not meant to be.
though i have never read or heard it before..but it is beautiful..
what i could make out of your post is, when someone does wrong or evil he will face the same, is the interpretation of your post right?
Well, evil might be an extreme case. You see, at times we might consider an act of very less importance, but it might weigh a lot in front of Allah (swt). For example, there are a number of things in my life that are against the sunnahs of the Prophet (saw) because I unintentionally ignore those ways of the Prophet (saw) while dealing with people, and that would definitely affect my life, of course not in a positive way. But if I adopt them, it definitely bring positive results. For example, a scholar once advised us that the Prophet (saw) used to put one piece of meal (luqma) in the mouth of Hazrat Ayesha (r.a) while having a meal, if we also practice it, it would increase our love in the heart of our spouse. One of my friends whose relationship was going very bad with his wife tried it. His wife felt a bit shy and smiled. Then asked, "From where did you learn this". He replied, "From a friend". She replied," Your only that friend is good, the rest only waste your time"
There are so many delicate ways of the Prophet (saw) related to every aspect of life, which apparently don't look very useful, but if adopted, Allah (swt) showers the blessings of love & sincerity in the hearts of those who practice them.
I might be wrong in some things I said. May Allah guide me towards the right path, and to be able to correct my mistakes. Allah (Swt) knows best!
Being honest is good. But being careful is better.
Life does not look fair to us but Allah swt is indeed fair...even when something bad happens. It seems from your post you are heartbroken and are trying to find out where you went wrong.
You may not have done anything wrong...but that does not mean destiny does not have a job to do. If you did your best and things didnt work out...then its not meant to be.
if i say that i did the best but the reason for parting was very piddling or rather i would use the word utter ignorance and was totally against the teachings of Islam.
i was all right...though i m also not a like any staunch muslim i also made some mistakes but that was my and Allah's matter i didn't hurt any human being consciously or intentionally,
but the reason to leave is not only the disobedience of Allah's own rights but human rights too..
My 2 cents. I don't believe in destiny. I do, however, believe in the power of making choices. That's how I've been brought up.
In this world, you don't live by yourself. You live alongside other people and various opportunities. And you decide what you want make a part of your life. Like a person, do you want that person to become close to you. Or an opportunity, do you want to go ahead with the risk. It's not about how much love or admiration that person gives you, but to be prepared of the fact that this person can never be as "permanent" as your own family. I know it sounds pessimistic a bit. But the bottom line is to never get TOO used to things or people. Easier said than done. But what's that thing about not getting too absorbed or lost in worldly things, that our departure from earth (to Allah) (the ultimate fact) becomes difficult?
Well, evil might be an extreme case. You see, at times we might consider an act of very less importance, but it might weigh a lot in front of Allah (swt). For example, there are a number of things in my life that are against the sunnahs of the Prophet (saw) because I unintentionally ignore those ways of the Prophet (saw) while dealing with people, and that would definitely affect my life, of course not in a positive way. But if I adopt them, it definitely bring positive results. For example, a scholar once advised us that the Prophet (saw) used to put one piece of meal (luqma) in the mouth of Hazrat Ayesha (r.a) while having a meal, if we also practice it, it would increase our love in the heart of our spouse. One of my friends whose relationship was going very bad with his wife tried it. His wife felt a bit shy and smiled. Then asked, "From where did you learn this". He replied, "From a friend". She replied," Your only that friend is good, the rest only waste your time"
There are so many delicate ways of the Prophet (saw) related to every aspect of life, which apparently don't look very useful, but if adopted, Allah (swt) showers the blessings of love & sincerity in the hearts of those who practice them.
I might be wrong in some things I said. May Allah guide me towards the right path, and to be able to correct my mistakes. Allah (Swt) knows best!
SubhanAllah... such things from real life make the believe more strong in Allah and His Prophet (PBUH).
may Allah help us all...ameen
My 2 cents. I don't believe in destiny. I do, however, believe in the power of making choices. That's how I've been brought up.
In this world, you don't live by yourself. You live alongside other people and various opportunities. And you decide what you want make a part of your life. Like a person, do you want that person to become close to you. Or an opportunity, do you want to go ahead with the risk. It's not about how much love or admiration that person gives you, but to be prepared of the fact that this person can never be as "permanent" as your own family. I know it sounds pessimistic a bit. But the bottom line is to never get TOO used to things or people. Easier said than done. But what's that thing about not getting too absorbed or lost in worldly things, that our departure from earth (to Allah) (the ultimate fact) becomes difficult?
yeah you are right absorbing so much in worldly things makes our life difficult..may Allah save us from this pitfall and help us remain on the Straight path...ameen