Re: Who will keep my gold jewellery?
keep your jewellery with you unless your husband or your MIL asks you to hand over to your MIL. I would advise to keep your mom's side jewellery other than the wedding set at your mom's place. if someone asks, tell them it is in bank and you couldnt pick it in the hassle of the wedding. keep it there for a week or two atleast-meanwhile you will have an idea if they ask to hand over theeir side of jewellery (bari) to MIL or not.
you cant do anything abt the rest of the jahaiz. my in-laws live in another city while hubby lives here in lahore. my jahaiz was sent directly here where i was supposed to use it. i got to know stories from hubby's cousins and dewrani that MIL minded it but since she never talked to me directly abt it or to my mom, i didnt get bothered abt what she thought.
for my SIL, my MIL showed each and every thing in jahaiz to her nand who came to pick the jahaiz and gave her a list of things.she locked the stuff and they transported it to their place. i suppose this varies from family to family.but for the jewellery, MIL took my suggestion of not giving her the jewellery at rukhsati. and while i was being sincere to advise her, she was like 'challako...apni bhi nahin layee thi na saath iss liay' :D and i was like...apki beti ko tau sahee mashwara day rahi hoon na. LOL it was all in a light mood though.
best of luck :)