Who Wears the Pants

[Afridi786]

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According to Anil's opinion of kids that have grown up here with working mothers, I should be a drunken, drugged up, floosie!

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^ur not? lol Kidding!
I think he means that the kids when there not in school or still young, they shud be under supervision of their mother all times. I feel the same way, i wudnt want my kids growing up with a babysitter or nanny, unless of course im living with my extended family in which case she can work if she wants.

[Sara516]

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[Anil_Khan]

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@Fraudz

so basically when kids are school age and are out of home then you dont have an issue with the women working?

Good.

P.S. do all kids with working mothers become druggies? and do all kids with at home mothers turn out to be model citizens?

When kids are out of school then we can talk about it :) .

Kids who don't have a parent at home to look after them grow up without the concept of family; they would look for the first opportunity to get out of the house and leave the parents. This just from what I've seen. There is a greater chance of kids being "model citizans" if there is mum at home.

[Decent_6Chora]

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@Anil Khan

Just to add to the above; my main reason for not being in favour of women working is so that they can look after the children. I wouldn’t want my kids to grow up with a nanny or babysitter. There is no replacement for a mother’s touch.

Personally, if my mom wasn’t home taking care of me and my brother then I’m sure we’d be like the rest of the youth of the West (or most of 'em) drinking and doing drugs.

Wrong!

Mother can stay at home 24/7 and not pay attention to the kids and she can be out working for 8 hours and still pay attention to kids and raise them as a good human being.

As per your theory, I should be drinking and doing drugs right now, but unfortunately (for you) I am not. My mother is a Teacher. She worked hard for last 25 years (not that our family needed money my father was bringing home more than enough) but still I think whatever I am, my mother has major role to play in that.

Only thing I am in favor of is may be a break from work for woman (or man) during first 2 years of child..

[Afridi786]

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There is a greater chance of kids being "model citizans" if there is mum at home.
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^Agree, y do u think most serial killers were orphans or were adopted? think about it.

[Anil_Khan]

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@Faisal

Another thread hijacked by Anil Khan! :-D

Anyway, Anil Khan has very simplistic views about life, wife and other related topics. Only problem is that either his geography is wrong (he should have been born in the jungles of Africa or the mountains of some really backward village of Afghanistan) or he is in the wrong century (may be if he was born about 200 years ago, he'd fit right in). I wouldn't worry too much about him, though. Assuming he succeeds in his life long dream of marrying a beauty from Hunza, we all know who will wear pants in his house.

Hijacked? We're basically on topic but have taken a tangent that becomes parallel to the initial topic.

I would agree with you that I should've been born during the '50's. Coincidently (or not) one of my fav sitcoms is Leave it to Beaver. The home cooked meal thats ready for Ward when he comes home brings a tear to my eye :) .

[Sara516]

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@Afridi786

^Agree, y do u think most serial killers were orphans or were adopted? think about it.

I can't wait for fraudia to tear you a new one.

[Anil_Khan]

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@Decent 6Chora

Wrong!

Mother can stay at home 24/7 and not pay attention to the kids and she can be out working for 8 hours and still pay attention to kids and raise them as a good human being.

As per your theory, I should be drinking and doing drugs right now, but unfortunately (for you) I am not. My mother is a Teacher. She worked hard for last 25 years (not that our family needed money my father was bringing home more than enough) but still I think whatever I am, my mother has major role to play in that.

Only thing I am in favor of is may be a break from work for woman (or man) during first 2 years of child..

Alhumdullilah brother. But I would say that you’re part of a minority. Generally, if kids don’t get mother’s undivided attention during critical years then there is a greater probability of them being/getting misguided.

[Afridi786]

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@Sara516

I can't wait for fraudia to tear you a new one.

woh pathan hai kya?

[niyal]

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@Anil Khan

Alhumdullilah brother. But I would say that you’re part of a minority. Generally, if kids don’t get mother’s undivided attention during critical years then there is a greater probability of them being/getting misguided.

lol i think the same .. does that make me a conservative too

[Muslim_Met_Fan]

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Mothers should dominate to the point where they don't get carried away.

[PyariCgudia]

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I’ve seen lots of moms who sit at home and they’re doing more damage to their kids that way. Like I have this aunt, and she’s totally messed up her daughter, because she sits at home and has a bad relationship with her husband, and to vent it out, all she does is she shops and watches TV. The kids come home with homework, and no one cares whether they do it or not. Mom is also a bit lazy and doesn’t like answering questions when kid has problem with assignment. I know, because to undo some of this damage, I had to tutor her for a month. And I found out that the damage is deeply rooted. Kid has no ambition, very low self-esteem, and her new gameplan is to marry a doctor so that she doesn’t have to work. I don’t know how that will pan out.

Poor kid. And its really because the mom doesn’t take any interest. But she sits at home.

[Mamaof3]

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There are indeed stay-at-home moms who dont do their job well, just as in the working world you'll find those who do not do their job well. Otherwise, being a good parent, being a stay at home mom is the toughest "job" Ive ever had. Its exhausting and all consuming. I always get a kick out of those comments about stay-at-home moms "sitting at home" - like theres nothing better to do than eat bonbons and watch soap operas.....the people who think this way are truly in for a rude awakening when their little ones arrive!

[Anil_Khan]

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I wish there were more like you on this board, mamaof3.

[PyariCgudia]

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Mamaof3, I think there is a need to separate a stay at home MOM vs. a stay at home WIFE.

Secondly, no one is underestimating the work that a mom puts in to rearing her kids. Its just that it becomes questionable when she is NOT putting in work at home to rear her kids and sits on her behind in front of a TV all day (or any activity which makes her ignore her kids). And that happens. Pretty frequently actually. I have met very few DESI MOMS who are very interactive with their kids in a healthy way. Most of them let the kids run around while they're on the phone with sakeena behen.