Ok, its not an issue but just out of curiosity, who wakes up first in the morning and wake up the spouse and/or kids? you or your wife/husband? Is it “assumed” in desi families that MAN has to wake up first and then wake everyone else?
You guessed it right. I wake up late this morning and that has put everyone behind schedule including my kids school. When I asked my begum
“Ok I slept late why did you not wake up with the alarm for a change?”
she just smiled/brushed the question off like its MY DUTY to wake up and wake other people (not that I mind). Has someone just “assumed” this duty in your household or its “whoever wakes up with the alarm” ?
D6C dont have n e experience, but living wid parents I am generally the first one to wake up for the past yr or so, since i started praying and i wake up for Fajr and then wake everyone up. Lekin quiet honestly i dont wanna be the one with the responsibility to be the first one up in da mornings and waking everyone else. I really hope whoever i get married to does this for me :D
On weekdays… I wake up first with the alarm, get everyone up and ready.
On weekends, my husband wakes up first at 6:00 in the morning and asks for parathay in naashta … why oh whyyyyyyy . I just turn my back and go back to sleep, baad mein around 9 a.m I wake up and make parathaas for the mister.
i'm not in this situation yet ... but i don't think i'd be the one to hold the responsibility as i have a reputation to sleep through alarms ... so i doubt that i'm getting that job
i'm not in this situation yet ... but i don't think i'd be the one to hold the responsibility as i have a reputation to sleep through alarms ... so i doubt that i'm getting that job
but this too common in desi gals? why dont they "put effort" to change this habit?
but this too common in desi gals? why dont they "put effort" to change this habit?
er, it depends on the family and the upbringing. Seriously.
In my family, we are all early risers and early sleepers. Which means we are all up by 6:00 a.m. Sleeping in for us is sleeping till maybe 8:00 a.m.
When I went to Karachi, I noticed that the whole city 'wakes up' after 12:00 p.m. It's quite normal for people there to sleep in all morning. I found it odd, but that's just how it is there. So it becomes ingrained in the ppl ... and when they move here, they find it hard to 'get up'.
I find it disturbing how normal it is for housewives to spend all morning sleeping. I don't know about our generation, but the older generation .....
Then again, my family's sleeping habits are 'abnormal' in comparison with the rest.
To answer your question, my dad would get up for Tahajud everyday between 3:00 a.m. and 4:00 a.m. He would also make my mother nashta everyday. She would get up for Fajr and her chai would be ready.
That is what I am talking about. If someone is NOT a working woman, why “aab job per tu jana nahee, lets sleep” thinking kicks in ? (in most of the cases) ?
If occasionaly the alarm doesn't go off and you notice, sure, wake up the person, but they shouldn't assume that you will do it. They should be responsible.
When husband was working, I'd wakeup with him, and we'd just chat a bit before he left. I'd either go back to sleep fror another hour or so and then wake up, or i'd stay awake throughout the whole day.
We usually wake up at the same time but go to sleep at different times several times a week.
We each wake up at the sound of our alarms. Mine is set a little earlier than his but he wakes from noise of my alarm. Also often enough my daughter wakes up at around 6 am like clockwork each morning, so if ever we oversleep she'd be sure to wake us up by crying :)
. I just turn my back and go back to sleep, baad mein around 9 a.m I wake up and make parathaas for the mister.
