none. look for single guy. No1 will be challenging too actually more than number 2. living with step-kids is easier than having them as guests where u hav no control over anything. n he might come n go any time. on weekends, school breaks, whenever mom feels like dropping him off to dad's place. plus this will never develop a relation b/w the mom n step-son.hubby will b in constant contact with ex wife n relative. this will n can cause jealousies. if he really wanna marry a dad she should go for 2 or none. in sit.# 2 there will b more sacrifices, ppl will b judging her every move but family will be completed. she'll hav more control over kids n her situation. dad won't b a rolling mass. if done rightly she can develop good relations with kids easily. she can limit ties with ex as desirable.
yea.. this is what i was indicating to. just couldn't be bothered to explain it fully.