who should pay [+]

[lahori99]

Re: prostitution?

@redvelvet

Lahori, I don’t understand WHY the ideas in your threads are either too extreme or too simplified.

Most parents want their daughters to get married to a guy who is stable and settled. Most guys…don’t feel ready for marriage unless they are settled career-wise. A desire for security is only natural.

Yes, there may be some women who ONLY desire wealth in their partner…and don’t care about other factors such as his character, his age, looks, compatibility, etc. Does that make her a prostitute? Yes, sex is a huge part of marriage. But does this woman make a living by selling sex..is that like a business for her…where she sees x number of men each day??? Or is she committed to only her husband regardless of what reason she married him for? And what if the woman …let’s say it’s a desi girl…who has never been in a relationship…marries a rich guy…does that make her a prostitute?

Now, please don’t get offended if I pose this question…because my intention is not to offend here. If there was a girl from YOUR family…let’s s a cousin or even an aunt…who has a squeaky clean reputation…who never had any relationships before marriage…but married a wealthy guy because she always dreamed of marrying a rich guy…would that make this girl (from your family) a prostitute? Or is it easier for you to bestow this label on other girls?

And even women who might only “date” wealthy men…perhaps their conduct during the date is far from that of a prostitute. There are exceptions…you can’t just dump everyone into the same category. Pathetic.

**And I SOOOOOOOO miss the smileys in the OLD GS format. The one where the “rolling eyes” smiley actually looked like it was rolling it’s eyes…and not like it’s daydreaming as the one above.

I simply asked because today i ran into some article/blog similar to this topic. Just like a video i posted a lil while go: who should pay? Had nothing to do with me.
But when it comes to my opinion on women marrying men for their money/wealth/status, i don’t respect that at all, regardless of who it is. How would the guy feel knowing she is with him b/c of his money? if he had no money, same girl wouldn’t be interested.
i personally don’t agree how most arrange marriages work. If guy has phd, he is catch, take phd out, same guy is nobody, he is a loser. Most arranged marriage seems like a business deal to me than anything else