Nice reply.
Keep in mind that Mama Ki Dua did answer the question by first saying that “NO” not all women who marry for wealth are prostitutes. So she’s not concurring with you a 100%.
Even few days back i was thinking the same thing that lahori posted. One of my friend had a break up. That guy used to give lots of gifts to her girlfriend and we all knew that this girl (who was way hotter than the boy) is with boy just because of gifts. Since there was no match (that girl was too much into looks but still she was with that guy).
**Did she sleep with your friend? Does she have a reputation for being promiscuous (sleeping around with a lot)?
**
The girl used to flirt with other boys as well .. ..
then, that guy got fired from the job and got financial issues for sometime. he was not able to give proper gifts to that girl (he used to give at least 1 gift each month). The girl broke up with him .. .. after 3 years of relation. she broke up. The guy was crying his eyes out and the girl was going out with another guy the very next day .. .. aah! .. What should we call this?
**There are two sides to an issue. Now, if your friend complains about this girl to you…he’s only sharing his side of the story. You still haven’t heard the girl’s side of the situation. And she very well might be a gold digger. But if your friend was in a relationship with this girl for 3 years…which is a VERY LONG TIME…could he not figure out that she’s taking him for a ride? You say that she’s really pretty. So, did he only enter the relationship with her because of her looks. Didn’t he pick up on her character. I don’t think it’s easy to hide lack of interest from another person. Our body language…tone of voice…attitude indicates if we are annoyed with the other person and not that into them. Did you friend not pick that up? Was he that clueless…or does your friend have SUCH LOW SELF-ESTEEM that he chose to miss the signs as long as he had a pretty girl on his arm? Did he not have his own self-respect to see what this girl was doing? It’s so easy to blame another person for hurting you…it takes more courage to look at your own mistakes and stupidity.
Plus…the dynamics of a relationship are so complex. Losing a job can take its toll on a person. It can make a person angry, bitter, clingy…even overall unpleasant to be around. It’s possible that perhaps the girl had OTHER issues with him BESIDES his lack of a job and inability to shower her with gifts.
Again…I’m not saying that she wasn’t a gold digger…but I’m also trying to look at other factors.
**
There is a difference between .. “looking at stable financial future for marriage” and “just looking at the bank balance” and nothing.
**Yes, there is a difference. But that STILL doesn’t mean that every single girl who only marries a guy for his bank balance is a prostitute. What if a desi girl…who never had a relationship before marriage…marries a guy who is wealthy because she always dreamed of marrying someone rich…she marries the guy…is faithful to him…does that mean she’s a prostitute?
And what would you call a guy who KNOWS that the girl is only marrying him for his money…and marries her anyway? What does that say about his intelligence?
And even if a woman were to date a rich guy…it also depends upon how she conducts herself during these interactions.
Your thinking and Lahori’s for that matter is rather simplistic and extreme…it doesn’t take into account various situations and exceptions.
**
Buy it or leave it but i do believe those girls are prostitutes .. 