Re: Who pays?
^ or you can ask, what kind of guy who’s about to take on the responsibility of providing for her for the rest of her life would expect(<key word here) her wife to pay for it( or chip in)? Talk about starting on the wrong foot.
Ok let’s try to figure out why a guy wouldnt want to pay..
a. You don’t have the money? Wait 6 months and save up for it. What’s the rush brother? If there is one, then there’s always fasting.
b. The great my money vs. her money debate. If you go into marriage with that kinda mentality,you are probably not ready for marriage yet. Again, wait brother, wait.
c. You are just a kanjoos? Then it’s a character flaw that the girl needs to know of before hand, and what better way than this litmus test? In that case when someone asks the girl, ‘Who’s the lucky groom?’ She’ll just go ,’ oh a kanjoos 
’ and be done with it.. no biggie.