hi, i’m not pakistani, but i’ve been reading this forum to learn more about pakistani weddings because i’m getting married in lahore this december. we are having 3 days of wedding – mehndi, shadi, walima. can you tell me who is supposed to be paying for all of this?
Re: Who Pays for the Wedding?
Shadi bride's side, valima groom's side, and if mehndi is a combined mehndi then mostly both sides share the cost.
Re: Who Pays for the Wedding?
^ Right.
The mehndi is usually shared but people also have more than one mehndi. Each side their own... which is pointless. One should be plenty.
Shaadi is hosted by the girl's side and the guy's side are the guests - thus, paid by the hosts.
Valima is hosted by the guy's side and the girl's side are the guests - thus paid by the hosts.
hi, i'm not pakistani, but i've been reading this forum to learn more about pakistani weddings because i'm getting married in lahore this december. we are having 3 days of wedding -- mehndi, shadi, walima. can you tell me who is supposed to be paying for all of this?
If you are asking your question , you are concerned about where the money is going to come for these parties and all the halla gulla, in that case the shadi should be a simple celebration . It should not be a torture which makes you think where are we going to get that kind of money to afford all those big parties.
thanks for the info -- but how about the jewelry? i mean, who buys it for each day? who chooses it? and the dresses?
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depends from family to family... some will give money for both days clothes to the bride and let her choose. jewellery can either be bought new or be heirlooms passed on from MIL's to DIL's, or both.
sometimes both days dresses will come from the groom's side with little to no involvement of the bride.
sometimes the brides picks her wedding dress and her valima and mehendi dress come from the groom's side.
sometimes the inlaws are nice enough to ask her what she wants and get it made for her.
the possibilities are endless- you would really need to speak to your fiance and your inlaws and sort out what is most comfortable for all of y'all.
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well sometimes the brides side buys the barat dress but in my case my in laws did
n walima dress is usually given by grooms family, hmmm mehndi dress well where im frm in pak its custom for the guys side to bring the menhdi dress or u cn buy it urself
jewellrey-well i think usually both sides buy it for their own individual days but im sure the adults involved will sit down n disscuss thiss with one another
in my case my in laws involved me in all aspects of shopping i chose my wedding dress to shoes the works n they even asked what i wanted in jewellry
thanks for your replies everyone -- it's good to know what the traditional habits are.
my wedding is in lahore -- i have a lot of questions but for now, can anyone recommend a mehndi artist to me? i'd like to get glitter mehndi with portraits (you know, when they draw the mughal faces).... nobody on the forum talks much about where to get the henna done so i need some tips...
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The expenses of the wedding usually vary from family to family. In mine the riwaaj was for the baraat dress to be made by my side and the valima one to come from the dulha's side. however when i got married my husband decided to pay for all the dresses and jewelery I needed..
as far as the matter of payment goes with respect to each function.. then usually people split the expenses for the mehndi, baraat is paid for by the brides side and the valima by the grooms..
goodluck!!