sorry, but i find that “turkey equals shirk” bit very one-dimensional thinking and kind of crazy. maybe that scholar should make some friends with non-muslims and realize not all goras/non-muslims see their family once a year, and not everyone is so hooked on to the idea of cooking turkey every year that to not cook it means the end of the world 
and while we’re at it, why don’t we talk about issues like elder abuse in our own so-called muslim communities? i say scholars like that should work more on improving themselves and the muslims around them in the fundamentals, like namaaz, roza, zakaat, respecting elders, etc., before picking on easy targets like christmas dinners.
also, if those kids in your extended family are questioning Islam,
a) its probably more to do with their “half-caste” status, i.e. they were exposed to two religions and are trying to figure out which one to follow, more than having turkey every christmas.
b) an opportunity to discuss islam and the quran with them, instead of shying away from the topic. questions are not bad! there is no need to feel threatened- they’re just trying to figure out what they believe in and it should be used as an opportunity to open up discussion, imho.
on a sidenote: we had yorkshire pudding at our wedding (accompanying the steak). went down a real treat with everyone!
Rupay: srsly drool! them pastries are the bomb!