Who is to blame?

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Re: Who is to blame?

@Niksik

Please don’t get me started on this.

What excuse do the well-off folks have? Even now you see the mentality where women give you dua for a son and justify by saying “oh there’s no difference between sons and daughters these days but daughters go away to another family so you have no right over them anymore.” Why? Why this thinking?

My questions:

1. Why is a daughter supposed to treat her “new” family as a priority? If you look at the religious perspective, jannah lies under the feet of YOUR mother not your spouse’s mother, and there is no addendum nullifying this after marriage. Why is it that it is OK for men to visit their families as often as they wish to, but the girl must always be kiafat-shaar and resist the temptation to go to her parents’ home whenever she feels like?
2. Why do parents spend more money on their son’s education and are always hesitant to spend on their daughter’s education.
3. Why so much pressure on girls’ parents for wedding expenses? When will parents realize that if they educate their daughters, they can actually start a process of cleaning up the social mess.

/vent.

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my thoughts exactly, their should not be any difference between boy or girl but there is in every society around the world from the very beginning of mankind and it will stay as it is until the very end.

few reasons why:

1. people want son who will carry on the family name and make sure family lineage is well and alive

2. parents expect the son to take care of them when they are old

3. boys are stronger and better workers that could keep the family business alive or help dad around

4. Boys were just considered better than girls, its genetics because they were and are heirs to thrones

i can go on .. and on, but lets make a stop here - that’s how the world is and it will stay as it is.