Re: who is at fault...
CM - I have no idea why people get offended by that, if you ask for that sort of attention why get upset when you get it...
But I also think that looking or a comment is harmless, but some guys really get offensive. And your standard of being too sexy or too tight might be different from mine and that is the problem with judging people by a moral standard.
Also, it seems as though it is like WitchDr pointed out in post #16, the on-lookers to the two people who get offended and usually women. Jealousy, perhaps?
WitchDr - Admiring looks from men, ugly or good-looking, are equally nice. I think there is a difference in the stares though. If you are dressing with a sexual edge, the stares are one way and a rude comment or two is expected. But if you are just good-looking and dressed appropriately, it is a whole other feeling... admiration is nice.... lust is not.